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googluck trying to convince someone else!!!! it can be very stressfull and very easyly be made to look like ur the crazy one. just send some email around about traits annd hopfullky they will be there at the right time for someone who might be going throw the abuse by the same person. its amazing how many pple dont know about this disorder
Absolutely your right !!! This has always been the problem for me and yes no wonder I live on my own as I have attracted a lot of this type in my youth and now at 60 I have a Sociopath boss and I work from home on a Tarot line and still he makes life difficult for myself and many !!! I am sure I am the crazy one to many sorry to say.
I had a boss that was a sociopath. I let slide some of his methods when he was hired thinking he was settling in. Not – he was setting up his domain. I found my staff had issue as well (yes, I was a manager). I took my issues to HR and suggested to my staff that they also talk to HR (about their issues). But it was too late. the staff said nothing and he had been setting up an action against me.
I left – he did the same to my replacement (that he hired) and the staff just kept complaining.
Like Gordon says: ensure there are ALWAYS witnesses and get everything in writing.
Best of luck.
I work for a sociopath right now!!! She used to be a receptionist but was given the office manager title when our last boss was transferred to another office. This nut makes my life living Hell and criticizes everything from my hours to my ordering, I work at a Dental Office. I have PTSD and this is making it worse!! I am now looking for another job, can’t take this one more minute!!
I have just worked out that my boss is a sociopath and he is an aggressive type. He doesn’t hit people but he can be very hard and verbally abusive. He picks on me a lot as he see’s that I am quite shy and sensitive.
When I first met him I really liked him and he has a nice face; he is quite handsome. I was surprised, though, at how much I liked him because he can be so hard, but when he isn’t like that we all have a laugh. But I have thought about this and I can see that when he playing about he is really being very sarcastic and it really isn’t that nice. When he gets mad, through, he can be brutal and his face becomes really menacing.
He makes me feel that whatever I do it is wrong, or that is was in the wrong order, or something, which makes me feel bad all the time, and he is always being hyper critical. He keeps telling me to do this and do that and always changing the goalposts so I can’t possibly get it right. I now realise that he is out for total domination and he wants me squirming on the floor like a lttle worm, as well as be his puppet that he can pull the strings on.
I actually think this guy is quite capable of murder and I am now really scared of him. I can’t afford to lose my job so I have to stay there but I just won’t upset or challenge him at all anymore.
Now this is my problem: I could easily prove to some people that he is a psychopath but if he gets wind of it I fear he could become very terrifying indeed. After getting a number of people on board I could then go to managment about him, but the problem is that he is very strong manager and probably impresses them a lot. Also, as he is very charimistic and confident so he does not appear weird, or strange, to most people at all. And the senior managers can be really tough and hard people too.
He once made a 54 year old man cry after he brutalised him. He has also made a woman cleaner cry too. And when agency workers come to work at my place he can be really mean to them, and one was so upset recently that he couldn’t sleep that night.
I might be able to get a significant amount of people on my side and gather evidence afterwhich I could go to managment, but if it backfires then I’m toast. He is retiring in two years time so perhaps it is best I say nothing to anyone about what he is.
What do you think I should do? If I gain good evidence along with other peopl’s testimonies and experiences, should I expose him, or buckle down and bear it? I begining to think the latter is much wiser. Working under him for two more years will be hard, though, and I’m sure he will attempt to fire me anyway, but I now getting so good at my job because the enormous hard work and studying I’m putting (hours of it mostly in my own time) so I don’t think he will be able to fire me. I now know I have met psychopaths before and have worked with them, but he really is the most scariest one I have ever met.
I worked for a Sociopath who tried to make a case to discipline then sack me on grounds of “poor performance”. He coopted higher management in and even my union rep. I went off sick for two months with stress. When I was off I took alternative advice and I left my old union branch and got a new rep. On return to work my manager quickly tried to reinstate performance measures but was stopped by a Senior HR manager who identified ill health in me.
I had completed a stress report which was sent to a senior manager who ignored it.
After I changed my manager due to a management reshuffle he raised a grievance against me which was quashed but caused me more stress. This time I had an empathic union rep. Sociopaths don’t always win. We have to stop protecting them and stop others protecting them
Most people are natural bystanders And they are Apaths. Read the Empathy Trap by Jane and Tim McGregor. If you are surrounded by Apaths you could find yourself in trouble.
I agree, Jonathan. As you said ‘We have to stop protecting them and stop others protecting them’.
Although it is hard, try not to give them what they want. The very reason you are a target is because they see you as a threat … because you won’t play their game. Every time someone, minimises themself or leaves their job – that is another win for the sociapath! There is some good advice on the net about how to protect yourself from a sociopathic boss. Be strong and seek allies!!
This article finally gave me some comfort. It is draining and not worth to fight against a unified management front. They all cover up for each other. HR works for the management and it only makes matters worst to go to HR.
I totally agree !! Only thing is to lay low and make the voice stable when they try to freak you out with their lies and be calm and carry on until one can change the situation .
are you sure you can glibly interchange the words “psychopath” and “sociopath” like that?
great article otherwise and much needed. those higher up in management need to be called out for their abusive behaviour.
I was married to a sociopath, so I know it is impossible to “win” when playing with one. My boss is a sociopath, so before I find a new job, I decided to talk to the DM. I plan on warning her what she’s dealing with only because it bothers me that sociopaths get away with so much. As long as I try to educate others, I feel I did what any decent person would do. There is always the chance someone might just listen and learn something new….