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Come on in and make yourself at home! Compare types of counselling and psychotherapy, take self-tests and quizzes, identify symptoms, look up medications, or learn about secure online therapy. You can also ask one of our psychologists a question, or read some of the more than one thousand questions left anonymously by other readers. Just choose a section from the tabs at the top of the page to get started.

Ask the Psychologist!

  • Obsessing About My Girlfriend’s Past
    Thu, 02 Jul 2009 Q: I am a 22-year-old male and I’ve been going through a weird disorder of some kind that doesn’t seem to match the queries of others that I’ve found in this column. I’ve been in a good relationship with a girl for about 6 months. She seems a trustworthy person and has given me no [...]
  • My Mother Seems Blind to My Father’s Abuse
    Thu, 02 Jul 2009 Q: My father abuses my mother and has for a long time. The problem is that she doesn’t want to see it. Every summer since I was 12 my father would get mad because of insignificant things, kick us out of the house, and then start berating my mother. His abuse is mostly verbal and [...]
  • My Boyfriend’s Mother Controls Everything
    Wed, 01 Jul 2009 Q: I want to dump my boyfriend because of his overly controlling and psychotic mother! My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years. My boyfriend is 24 and lives at home with two other siblings to help take care of their disabled father. However, his mother controls everything in their lives. She decides [...]
  • How Do I Overcome My Mom’s Guilt-Tripping?
    Wed, 01 Jul 2009 Q: I was only three years old when my mother and father divorced. My father is now deceased. My mom didn’t date much after the divorce. She now blames me for still being single. When I was younger, I was unhappy when she dated, and now I have a busy soccer travel schedule, so I’m [...]
  • Repeating Negative Cycles in My Relationships
    Wed, 01 Jul 2009 Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. When we first got together, I had just left a relationship so abusive I had to place a restraining order on my ex. I know I should have taken time to heal and not jumped into a relationship with my current boyfriend so quickly [...]
  • My Partner Loves to Fly — But Fears Airports
    Tue, 30 Jun 2009 Q: My partner says he feel stressed and “wound-up” whenever he’s at an airport. He insists he doesn’t have any fear of flying and has flown many times without problems. He cannot understand why he feels like this even when he actually likes flying so much. Could there be a sub-conscious reason he has these [...]
  • My Mind is Going 24/7: I’m Overwhelmed
    Tue, 30 Jun 2009 Q: I’m a 19-year-old male and I’ve been going through the hardest times of my life. The problem is that my mind is active 24/7, and I find myself thinking of questions like “What is time?,” “What is the present?,” “What is ego?,” and “Who am I?”. I wonder things like how I can control [...]
  • Is it an Ethical Issue if My Therapist Viewed My Online Dating Profile?
    Tue, 30 Jun 2009 Q: I’m nearing an impasse with my psychologist over what I feel is an ethical issue, and I would be interested in hearing your opinion on this matter. I’ll keep it short, and cut right to the question: Would it be ethical, under any circumstances, for a psychologist to post his/her profile with photos included, on [...]
  • Will My Insecurities Make My Worst Fears Come True?
    Mon, 29 Jun 2009 Q: My girlfriend is 20 and I am 21. We’ve been together about 7 months. My girlfriend tells me I am too insecure. I keep doubting our relationship and constantly fear that she will leave me or find someone better than me. I don’t want my girlfriend to leave because I love her so very much [...]
  • My Long-Distance Relationship is Making Me Crazy
    Mon, 29 Jun 2009 Q: My fiancé is in the military. He hasn’t been home since January. I do fly out to meet him every 2-3 months, wherever he might be. The last time I did this was in April. One night I woke up, and I started to wonder if I was happy in my relationship. I also [...]
  • How Can I Stop My Prozac Brain Shivers?
    Mon, 29 Jun 2009 Q: I was taking Prozac for Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) for about 6 months. I was on a dose of 60 mg per day for about 3 months. However, I started having “brain shivers.” I have heard that such things can happen if you change your dose, but I wasn’t lowering my dose or raising it. [...]
  • The Father of My Children is Making Me Go Insane
    Fri, 26 Jun 2009 Q: I’m in counseling right now, but there’s a whole week between sessions. I think I need to talk with someone more frequently. In the meantime, I’ve started journals and I’m taking antidepressants. But things aren’t happening fast enough. I have a lot of stress. I’m pregnant, have a child, and my unfaithful boyfriend who [...]
  • Can I Get Rid of Bad Memories Without Therapy?
    Thu, 25 Jun 2009 Q: I have had many bad experiences in my life. Some of my memories are really terrifying, and I have never talked about them to anyone. I find myself wanting to talk to someone whom I can trust and who won’t judge me. But I find it hard to trust anyone, and I end up [...]
  • Will Zoloft Interact with My Other Prescription Drugs?
    Thu, 25 Jun 2009 Q: My doctor just changed my antidepressant from Wellbutrin to Zoloft because I started having side effects from the Wellbutrin. My question is is it okay for me to take Zoloft with my other medications? I take medicine for migraines. My doctors have me taking 1 x 50 mg Pamelor/Aventyl, and 3 x 20 mg [...]
  • My Son’s Therapist Won’t Even Discuss the Use of Medicines with Me
    Wed, 24 Jun 2009 Q: My 15-year-old son has been seeing a therapist 3-4 times a month for about 8 months. The counselor now believes he needs anti-anxiety medication. She believes that it will allow him to relax enough to sort through the changes he needs to make and to deal with his social issues. In my discussions [...]
  • Just What is the Spiritual Ego?
    Wed, 24 Jun 2009 Q: I have heard that there are two types of egos, the spiritual ego and the psychological ego that Freud talked about. I’m looking for some insight into what the difference is. I’ve been doing some reading, and from what I’ve learned it seems that the regular ego wants things — anything — whether it’s [...]
  • Do Men and Women Think Differently About Aging?
    Wed, 24 Jun 2009 Q: I’m curious whether the psychology behind aging is different for women than men. Besides the physical changes of growing older, do women change emotionally and psychologically as they age? It seems to me that women start dreading their birthdays after 29. Is this a media-driven reaction or a natural instinct? A: If the amount [...]

From Our Blog

  • Communication is About a Common World
    Tue, 30 Jun 2009As we make friends with someone we usually get a better sense of what their words mean. We get a sense of our friend's internal world. We get a sense of where their words come from.
  • Getting It Right About Self-Esteem
    Wed, 24 Jun 2009One of the most serious misconceptions about self-esteem is that you can never have too much of it.
  • What is a Good Life?
    Tue, 23 Jun 2009It seems to me that a good life is a mix of these three realms: the sensual enjoyment of the physical, the pleasure of discovering and expressing our uniqueness and the delight we take in what is beyond ourselves.
  • Empowerment Tools: Invest Your Energy Where You Have Power
    Thu, 18 Jun 2009Human beings have one amazing power, but one power only -- the power of choice.

Book Reviews

  • Zerbe on Integrated Treatment of Eating Disorders
    Mon, 29 Jun 2009
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    This book seems to contain all of human life, from the scientific details through the full range of emotions, including the extremes of love and hate. And it emanates a sense that although we all get shaken sometimes, and life is dangerous, every feeling is expressible and every situation is workable.
  • Counselling for Post-traumatic Stress Disorder
    Tue, 23 Jun 2009
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    This book is important reading, as it competently deals with the treatment of a major health issue which is both prevalent and chronic, with strong co-morbidity. While the tone didn't particularly engage me, I did finish the book with some insights and solid understanding.
  • Mindfulness- & Acceptance-Based Behavioral Therapies
    Mon, 22 Jun 2009
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    The basic conceptualisation of human experience offered by this book is that distress arises from our relationship with our own internal experience. The remedy goes beyond (and could be seen as contrary to) the traditional cognitive therapy approach of disentangling the client from the thoughts, questioning them and replacing them with more realistic and helpful ones.

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