Disordered characters tend to think that everybody else is as dishonest as they frequently are. So, they often tell themselves that they should do their best to outwit others before others have a chance to outwit them.

Always wanting something for nothing, disturbed characters expect to pay the least for the things in life that are worth the most.

These three problematic thinking patterns tend to co-occur and lead to considerable problems with the disturbed character developing any sense of personal responsibility and accountability.

Disturbed characters have no sense of balance, fairness or compromise. The demandingness they bring to a relationship is a most frequent source of conflict and relationship distress.

Disturbed characters think there’s nothing worse than admitting a mistake, backing down in a conflict, or giving in to someone else — because it makes them look inadequate or “weak.”

A short while ago, we added a Spanish translation of Dr Carver’s well known article on identifying ‘losers’ in relationships, and we now have new translations available of two of Dr Carver’s other popular articles — on Stockholm Syndrome and on understanding personality disorders in relationships.

Disturbed characters often think they’re so smart, so clever, or so “special” that they can do what most others wouldn’t dream of trying and somehow get away with it. They see themselves as “legends in their own minds.”