Knowing the kind of person you’re dealing with can give you valuable insight into the types of values they’re likely to hold, their dominant attitudes and beliefs, and their typical modus operandi when it comes to dealing with other people.

When it comes to relationships with aggressive personalities, you can never give the green light to the conductor of a locomotive that has no brakes.

The most powerful aspect of staying focused on the relevant issues and remaining in the here and now is that the spotlight become centered where it ought to be: on the deficient character and his or her problematic behavior.

Overt and covert intimidation become more effective when the manipulator is skilled in communicating emotional tenacity, determination, and resolve, sending the message that the other party is no match in a contest with them.

“Tuning-out” someone who’s trying to make a point, teach a lesson, or call attention to a problem is a principal way that the disordered character resists internalizing the values, standards, and controls society wants him to adopt.

Side-stepping and misleading: rather than being accountable and responsible, what the issue-dodger and subject-changer really wants is to advance their own agenda at the expense of yours, while simultaneously managing your impression of them.

Who does online therapy appeal to? Who can make the most use of it? Is it just a next-best for people who cannot access ‘proper’ face to face therapy services, or might it actually be ideally suited to certain personality types?