‘Communication’ at Psychology, Philosophy and Real Life, Page 5

If pleasure is the only guide, then any addict with enough money to get what they want is our model.

To have a sense of how we appear to others can be helpful information. And “not taking it personally” can actually contribute to our taking “personal responsibility”.

Side-stepping and misleading: rather than being accountable and responsible, what the issue-dodger and subject-changer really wants is to advance their own agenda at the expense of yours, while simultaneously managing your impression of them.

We assume that other’s experience is the same as ours — but what if it isn’t?

Viewing communication as shared experience leads to a different approach to communication breakdown.