All too many people continue to stay with a character disturbed partner because they themselves have character issues that are dysfunctional. Here is an example of a woman who justifies her staying with her boyfriend by finding excuses for his cheating and manipulation — maybe it’s “just midlife crisis.”
Dr George Simon, PhD’s Articles at Psychology, Philosophy and Real Life, Page 2
Dr George Simon, PhD has published the following articles at Psychology, Philosophy and Real Life.
This list is sorted chronologically, from newest back to earliest.
Midlife Crisis? Or Character Disorder?
Wolves in Sheep’s Clothing: Do They Really Have No Shame?
Most folks know the feeling of shame so well, they can hardly understand that character-impaired people may have different underlying motives for their behavior. Erroneous notions about human nature may make sense in the context of ‘neurotic’ personalities, but when trying to understand character-impairment they leave us vulnerable to abuse and manipulation.
The Pursuit of Happiness
Positive psychology is a science that pursues the nature of happiness. It teaches us how to cultivate attitudes, beliefs and behaviors that help build a healthy, happy, robust character. As we learn to modify these core aspects of ourselves, we become more resilient; we become more able to recover and retain happiness.
An Eye for an Eye: Reciprocal Justice or Perpetual Injustice?
As long as people continue to seek retribution and revenge they will perpetrate injustice. But it is widely recognized that peace will come only when participants in conflict respect each other’s needs and aspirations. This is an on-going source of tension in the Middle East, and it applies equally to all human relationships and conflict.
How to Tell When Therapy Won’t Work
Learn to recognize these three red flags that the therapeutic process isn’t likely to work for a character disturbed individual in your life. Successful therapy for character disturbance does not depend on any of the these mainstays of traditional therapy, like focusing on feelings, trying to ‘see’ what the person is doing, or working on fears and insecurities and self-esteem issues. Part 3 of a series.
