Comments on: Empowerment Tools: Set Your Limits http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/05/12/empowerment-tools-set-your-limits/ Looking at life through the prism of psychology, philosophy, mental health and more. Originally created by counsellor, psychotherapist and philosopher Dr Greg Mulhauser, this blog is now the work of an international team of contributors. Fri, 25 May 2012 16:17:12 +0000 hourly 1 By: Mia http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/05/12/empowerment-tools-set-your-limits/comment-page-1/#comment-49945 Mia Wed, 13 May 2009 05:34:36 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1643#comment-49945 Well, once again I'm reminded of my duty to myself. Set limits, enforceable ones. This makes clear my expectations in a relationship, any relationship. The limits on what I will do. The limits on what I will accept from others. I find this to be very needful, to abide by my own pre-established or recently renewed limits. Thank you Dr. Simon for this affirmation and the rest of the series. I am finding with some people in my life, that I must be kind of "bitchy" by keeping firm in my stand. Frankly, I can't believe that some gentlemen actually think women are that dumb, that we would put up with all things for the sake of money or emotional dependence. Now the task also remains, to continue to remain approachable and willing to love again, when the time and people are right. Eeek. The word- balance- comes to mind. Well, once again I’m reminded of my duty to myself. Set limits, enforceable ones. This makes clear my expectations in a relationship, any relationship.
The limits on what I will do. The limits on what I will accept from others.
I find this to be very needful, to abide by my own pre-established or recently renewed limits.
Thank you Dr. Simon for this affirmation and the rest of the series. I am finding with some people in my life, that I must be kind of “bitchy” by keeping firm in my stand. Frankly, I can’t believe that some gentlemen actually think women are that dumb, that we would put up with all things for the sake of money or emotional dependence.
Now the task also remains, to continue to remain approachable and willing to love again, when the time and people are right. Eeek. The word- balance- comes to mind.

]]> By: Dr George Simon, PhD http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/05/12/empowerment-tools-set-your-limits/comment-page-1/#comment-49943 Dr George Simon, PhD Wed, 13 May 2009 03:05:59 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1643#comment-49943 Thank you for your comments, Stephanie. You are right that there are times when it's simply not possible or practical to disengage or cut all ties with character-deficient individuals. That's why I've spent the greater part of my career trying to help others deal with them more effectively. I'm glad you've found the material helpful. : ) Thank you for your comments, Stephanie. You are right that there are times when it’s simply not possible or practical to disengage or cut all ties with character-deficient individuals. That’s why I’ve spent the greater part of my career trying to help others deal with them more effectively. I’m glad you’ve found the material helpful. : )

]]> By: Stephanie http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/05/12/empowerment-tools-set-your-limits/comment-page-1/#comment-49942 Stephanie Wed, 13 May 2009 01:10:13 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1643#comment-49942 Dr Simon, Thanks for this ongoing series. It's a great complement to your book (a very helpful read!) in understanding how we neurotics contribute to unhealthy dynamics in relationships with character disordered/deficient people. Perhaps more importantly, you are continuing to help me learn to cope effectively with this sort of person. If it were up to me, I would sever all ties with this particular character disordered individual; unfortunately, he is the father of my child and while I broke off with him before the baby was born, I am forced into ongoing contact. I read and re-read your book/articles from time to time to ensure I am practising the techinques you have suggested. I have found it very helpful. So, my thanks. Dr Simon,

Thanks for this ongoing series. It’s a great complement to your book (a very helpful read!) in understanding how we neurotics contribute to unhealthy dynamics in relationships with character disordered/deficient people. Perhaps more importantly, you are continuing to help me learn to cope effectively with this sort of person.

If it were up to me, I would sever all ties with this particular character disordered individual; unfortunately, he is the father of my child and while I broke off with him before the baby was born, I am forced into ongoing contact. I read and re-read your book/articles from time to time to ensure I am practising the techinques you have suggested. I have found it very helpful.

So, my thanks.

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