Comments on: Habits: Benefits as Well as Baggage http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/04/15/habits/ Looking at life through the prism of psychology, philosophy, mental health and more. Originally created by counsellor, psychotherapist and philosopher Dr Greg Mulhauser, this blog is now the work of an international team of contributors. Sat, 21 Nov 2009 13:41:22 -0500 hourly 1 By: Mariana http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/04/15/habits/#comment-49796 Mariana Mon, 20 Apr 2009 14:39:46 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1553#comment-49796 Hi Lunna, It's going to the publisher this week, and they told me it takes about 45 days to get out of print and ready to launch on the market. It's originally in Spanish, but I am in the process of having it transtaled into other languages. If you wish, I can send you a free copy, just send me your email or an address I can contact you. (Click on my icon or name here and it will take you to my contact info). Hi Lunna,

It’s going to the publisher this week, and they told me it takes about 45 days to get out of print and ready to launch on the market. It’s originally in Spanish, but I am in the process of having it transtaled into other languages. If you wish, I can send you a free copy, just send me your email or an address I can contact you. (Click on my icon or name here and it will take you to my contact info).

]]> By: Lunna http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/04/15/habits/#comment-49791 Lunna Sun, 19 Apr 2009 11:43:04 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1553#comment-49791 Hi Mariana, Just out of curiosity; have you published your book? You have mentioned it in other post and sounds interesting to me. Hi Mariana,
Just out of curiosity; have you published your book? You have mentioned it in other post and sounds interesting to me.

]]> By: Mariana http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/04/15/habits/#comment-49777 Mariana Thu, 16 Apr 2009 19:33:09 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1553#comment-49777 ha ha ha =) ha ha ha =)

]]> By: Evan Hadkins http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/04/15/habits/#comment-49775 Evan Hadkins Thu, 16 Apr 2009 07:52:19 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1553#comment-49775 Hi Lunna (and Mariana) I prefer caramel to chocolate - weird I know. Wishing you all the best Lunna in putting the unhealthy relationship into your past. Thanks for your comment. Hi Lunna (and Mariana) I prefer caramel to chocolate – weird I know.

Wishing you all the best Lunna in putting the unhealthy relationship into your past. Thanks for your comment.

]]> By: Evan Hadkins http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/04/15/habits/#comment-49774 Evan Hadkins Thu, 16 Apr 2009 07:50:35 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1553#comment-49774 Hi Mariana, I'm an Edward de Bono fan. I think lateral thinking is a good way to shake up our habits. Congratulations on quitting. I'm told it can be a very hard addiction to break. The link with abuse is extraordinary. Many thanks for your comment. Hi Mariana,
I’m an Edward de Bono fan. I think lateral thinking is a good way to shake up our habits.

Congratulations on quitting. I’m told it can be a very hard addiction to break. The link with abuse is extraordinary. Many thanks for your comment.

]]> By: Lunna http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/04/15/habits/#comment-49773 Lunna Thu, 16 Apr 2009 03:49:25 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1553#comment-49773 Indeed a wonderful post Evan! I went back to an unhealthy relationship and I am regretting every single minute of it. I am strong in my position and with time I know it’ll be my past. Marianna, chocolates are almost like “Windex” in My Big Fat Greek Wedding, they are magical... cure everything! (I am joking). ;) Indeed a wonderful post Evan! I went back to an unhealthy relationship and I am regretting every single minute of it. I am strong in my position and with time I know it’ll be my past. Marianna, chocolates are almost like “Windex” in My Big Fat Greek Wedding, they are magical… cure everything! (I am joking). ;)

]]> By: Mariana http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/04/15/habits/#comment-49772 Mariana Wed, 15 Apr 2009 23:43:19 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1553#comment-49772 What a wonderful post, Evan! About the part where it reads... Habits can lead to our not noticing new aspects of a familiar situation... It reminded me of a book I read long ago, called Lateral Thinking by Edward de Bono. Habits can prevent us from seeing things from a different perspective. I agree with that, wholeheartedly. I recently quit smoking and since I am not a "person of regular or specific habits" I had to find a very paricular way to do it. So, I just thought of the times I smoked, why I did it, when, what for, etc. Then I thought, okay, let's see how much I depend on the chemicals of the cigarette (nicotine, tobaco, etc.), from now on, I will not smoke. So, I had like a plan B or support plan called "chocolates" -there's always a good excuse to eat chocolates- in case I felt I was going cold turkey. And what I found was that after many years of smoking, I still had full control of my life and the willpower to quit. It was nice to win that battle, though I still miss my cigs, but since there was no critical reason for me to smoke. I took it like saying goodbye to a non-working romantic partner or relationship. Sometimes, you just have to let go, for your own benefit. And, right after I quit smoking, in my book on emotional abuse I wrote, "Why keep involved in a relationship that has provided little satisfaction compared to the damage it can cause?" Doesn't make much sense... just like smoking, no matter how much I enjoyed my cigarettes. =) What a wonderful post, Evan!

About the part where it reads… Habits can lead to our not noticing new aspects of a familiar situation… It reminded me of a book I read long ago, called Lateral Thinking by Edward de Bono.

Habits can prevent us from seeing things from a different perspective. I agree with that, wholeheartedly.

I recently quit smoking and since I am not a “person of regular or specific habits” I had to find a very paricular way to do it. So, I just thought of the times I smoked, why I did it, when, what for, etc. Then I thought, okay, let’s see how much I depend on the chemicals of the cigarette (nicotine, tobaco, etc.), from now on, I will not smoke.

So, I had like a plan B or support plan called “chocolates” -there’s always a good excuse to eat chocolates- in case I felt I was going cold turkey.

And what I found was that after many years of smoking, I still had full control of my life and the willpower to quit. It was nice to win that battle, though I still miss my cigs, but since there was no critical reason for me to smoke. I took it like saying goodbye to a non-working romantic partner or relationship. Sometimes, you just have to let go, for your own benefit.

And, right after I quit smoking, in my book on emotional abuse I wrote, “Why keep involved in a relationship that has provided little satisfaction compared to the damage it can cause?” Doesn’t make much sense… just like smoking, no matter how much I enjoyed my cigarettes.

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