Comments on: Selective Listening and Attention http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/03/30/selective-listening/ Looking at life through the prism of psychology, philosophy, mental health and more. Originally created by counsellor, psychotherapist and philosopher Dr Greg Mulhauser, this blog is now the work of an international team of contributors. Fri, 25 May 2012 16:17:12 +0000 hourly 1 By: Rocking The Microphone | Paras G. http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/03/30/selective-listening/comment-page-1/#comment-51154 Rocking The Microphone | Paras G. Thu, 15 Oct 2009 07:28:55 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1446#comment-51154 [...] tube. Imagine pausing annoying people mid-sentence or speeding up those who are slow. I could take ’selective listening’ to a whole new level with this power to control my own [...] [...] tube. Imagine pausing annoying people mid-sentence or speeding up those who are slow. I could take ’selective listening’ to a whole new level with this power to control my own [...]

]]> By: Mariana http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/03/30/selective-listening/comment-page-1/#comment-49343 Mariana Sat, 04 Apr 2009 04:25:38 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1446#comment-49343 Hi John, I was thinking a bit about what you posted here, and perhaps -in some cases- tuning someone out can be a "protective measure." If you have to put up with a boss, or a coworker, or a family member who would just not stop talking because they have a strong need to talk 24/7 -about just anything, tuning them out could be a healthy approach. It's not what Dr. Simon is explaining here, though. Also, I found that stop talking to someone who is tuning you out can come naturally, sometimes. I mean, why waste your time and energy talking to someone who would rather have it their way? Some people just do this, they quit trying to ghet their message across until or unless the other party is open to different perspectives. Hi John,

I was thinking a bit about what you posted here, and perhaps -in some cases- tuning someone out can be a “protective measure.”

If you have to put up with a boss, or a coworker, or a family member who would just not stop talking because they have a strong need to talk 24/7 -about just anything, tuning them out could be a healthy approach.

It’s not what Dr. Simon is explaining here, though.

Also, I found that stop talking to someone who is tuning you out can come naturally, sometimes.

I mean, why waste your time and energy talking to someone who would rather have it their way? Some people just do this, they quit trying to ghet their message across until or unless the other party is open to different perspectives.

]]> By: John http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/03/30/selective-listening/comment-page-1/#comment-49318 John Thu, 02 Apr 2009 15:07:02 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1446#comment-49318 I find this article informative for me as I probably engage in selectively tuning out my wife and I often have used the excuse that I have poor hearing as why haven't heard what she has said. On the other hand, I don't think I'm a deeply disturbed person but the principle is applicable to me. The problem is I tune out when I consider the subject chosen is trivial. Most instances are logistical issues such as "I already told you: to take the garbage out, or the menu for dinner, or the list of who's coming to dinner, or you're never ready on time". I believe my wife doesn't weigh these issues proportionate to their importance, certainly to me but even to her. I find this article informative for me as I probably engage in selectively tuning out my wife and I often have used the excuse that I have poor hearing as why haven’t heard what she has said. On the other hand, I don’t think I’m a deeply disturbed person but the principle is applicable to me. The problem is I tune out when I consider the subject chosen is trivial. Most instances are logistical issues such as “I already told you: to take the garbage out, or the menu for dinner, or the list of who’s coming to dinner, or you’re never ready on time”. I believe my wife doesn’t weigh these issues proportionate to their importance, certainly to me but even to her.

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