This was a very intelligent and thought-provoking read. From my point of view it is probably an infinite post because I think I understand it, yet there’s the ‘plus a bit’ that I’m sure is eluding me on just one read. I enjoyed this very much!

About improvising our way through life, I think its got to do with how flexible we are. How much we are able to adjust our plans to the unexpected events in life.

In some ways, people tend to put a limit to the extent of their plans, or plan their lives a bit based upon what they expect from life or from themselves and others.

When we remain flexible, we are open to explore infinite possibilities, we don’t need to put a limit to our projects or plans, we can stay open and adjust to what it may come our way that we didn’t see coming.

I tend to plan and organise, but I do stay flexible and open enough to whatever ir new. There is a lot more that we dont know than that which we do know about. So, I take this approach, dream, plan, be realistic and stay open to whatever may come.

Thanks for your very personal comment. Wishing you all the best in what sounds like a very difficult situation.

Something else that got me thinking was a comment from a tutor last year. I used to get paralysed when trying to face a course of action, when he made a random comment in a psychology lecture, “people don’t like making decisions as it changes their lifes”. I’d been trying to decide whether to leave a city and work possibilities to care for my mother, and I realised there was no right or wrong, and it was better to take a chance and follow my heart. So when I get stressed now about choices ahead, I stay calm and think as long as I start on a path, I can explore possibilities as I find them, nothing is black or white, but if I don’t do anything I won’t get anywhere.