Comments on: One Hundred Years — And Counting http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/03/03/one-hundred-years-and-counting/ Looking at life through the prism of psychology, philosophy, mental health and more. Originally created by counsellor, psychotherapist and philosopher Dr Greg Mulhauser, this blog is now the work of an international team of contributors. Sat, 21 Nov 2009 10:06:01 -0500 hourly 1 By: Evan Hadkins http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/03/03/one-hundred-years-and-counting/#comment-48943 Evan Hadkins Mon, 09 Mar 2009 01:24:47 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1333#comment-48943 Hi Jean, I also think that therapists have something to contribute. (The viewpoint of the joke is too simplistic I think. When we go to a therapist we are often torn between wanting to change and not wanting to). I like the image of the midwife. My image has been that of a catalyst but I think midwife is probably better. Thanks for your comment. Hi Jean,

I also think that therapists have something to contribute. (The viewpoint of the joke is too simplistic I think. When we go to a therapist we are often torn between wanting to change and not wanting to).

I like the image of the midwife. My image has been that of a catalyst but I think midwife is probably better.

Thanks for your comment.

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“The joke highlights the contradiction doesn’t it? If all it takes is people wanting to change then therapists aren’t needed.” I don’t see it that way. Therapists can teach people tools for change, help them gain perspective and offer support in their journey. I think of therapists as midwives…they can help but they’re not producing the baby.

]]> By: Evan Hadkins http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/03/03/one-hundred-years-and-counting/#comment-48930 Evan Hadkins Fri, 06 Mar 2009 04:52:48 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1333#comment-48930 Hi Jean, The joke highlights the contradiction doesn't it? If all it takes is people wanting to change then therapists aren't needed. Thanks for your comment. Hi Jean,

The joke highlights the contradiction doesn’t it? If all it takes is people wanting to change then therapists aren’t needed.

Thanks for your comment.

]]> By: Jean Browman--Cheerful Monk http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/03/03/one-hundred-years-and-counting/#comment-48929 Jean Browman--Cheerful Monk Fri, 06 Mar 2009 04:43:11 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1333#comment-48929 I keep thinking of the joke, "How many therapists does it take to change a light bulb?" Answer: "One, but the light bulb has to really want to change." Therapy can help people change but they have to do the work, and they get to decide just how they want to change. I keep thinking of the joke, “How many therapists does it take to change a light bulb?”

Answer: “One, but the light bulb has to really want to change.”

Therapy can help people change but they have to do the work, and they get to decide just how they want to change.

]]> By: Evan Hadkins http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/03/03/one-hundred-years-and-counting/#comment-48912 Evan Hadkins Tue, 03 Mar 2009 19:57:44 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1333#comment-48912 Thanks Tyron. I do dig your emphasis on relationships. Willpower is a tricky one I think. I think desire needs to be there but I don't go with the self-punishing approach to willpower. I hope this makes sense. Thanks Tyron. I do dig your emphasis on relationships.

Willpower is a tricky one I think. I think desire needs to be there but I don’t go with the self-punishing approach to willpower. I hope this makes sense.

]]> By: Evan Hadkins http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/03/03/one-hundred-years-and-counting/#comment-48911 Evan Hadkins Tue, 03 Mar 2009 19:53:36 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1333#comment-48911 Thanks for your comment. I'm glad you think that psychotherapy can contribute to changing the world. I do understand that people stay in abusive relationships. I was thinking about children when I was writing. I do think more adults would leave if options that were (perceived as) safe were available. Thanks for your comment. I’m glad you think that psychotherapy can contribute to changing the world.

I do understand that people stay in abusive relationships. I was thinking about children when I was writing. I do think more adults would leave if options that were (perceived as) safe were available.

]]> By: So Much More Than A Mom http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/03/03/one-hundred-years-and-counting/#comment-48908 So Much More Than A Mom Tue, 03 Mar 2009 17:07:55 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1333#comment-48908 First, "A person (offered a safe alternative) doesn’t choose to stay in a family where physical and sexual abuse is common." is absolutely false in most cases. Most people who find themselves in abusive situations as adults were abused as children. They have come to expect it, don't believe they deserve better, have a high tolerance for abuse and will NOT leave the vast majority of the time....without some sort of major shift in their thinking, which Psychotherapy can assist with. Secondly, "Do you think it is the job of psychotherapy to change the world?" YES! Finally, "How would you like the world to change? How do you think psychotherapy should contribute to this change?" One person at a time. Psychotherapy can assist individuals with re-examining their entire belief system and understand where their behaviors and reactions come from. As knowledge is power, they can then make major life changes. On a societal level, the more enlightened folks we have out there, the less likely there will be such focus on greed, power, fame, war and abuse and more focus on peace. First, “A person (offered a safe alternative) doesn’t choose to stay in a family where physical and sexual abuse is common.” is absolutely false in most cases. Most people who find themselves in abusive situations as adults were abused as children. They have come to expect it, don’t believe they deserve better, have a high tolerance for abuse and will NOT leave the vast majority of the time….without some sort of major shift in their thinking, which Psychotherapy can assist with.

Secondly, “Do you think it is the job of psychotherapy to change the world?” YES!

Finally, “How would you like the world to change? How do you think psychotherapy should contribute to this change?” One person at a time. Psychotherapy can assist individuals with re-examining their entire belief system and understand where their behaviors and reactions come from. As knowledge is power, they can then make major life changes. On a societal level, the more enlightened folks we have out there, the less likely there will be such focus on greed, power, fame, war and abuse and more focus on peace.

]]> By: Tyron Thomas http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/03/03/one-hundred-years-and-counting/#comment-48901 Tyron Thomas Tue, 03 Mar 2009 15:08:26 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1333#comment-48901 Q:Do you think it is the job of psychotherapy to change the world? A: I don't necessarily depend upon a practice, but more the willingness to want to practice within the person. There is potential in all of us, but some people in my opinion want there to be change (within themselves), and know that the rescourses are all around them, but because of the willpower many people have these days don't have much ardency to even try make the change. How would you like the world to change? Well, I figure the world to be like one big relationship, and to my understanding, a healthy relationship have pretty much equivolent up and downs. I feel that's the only way of learning, through past mistakes. just think that were in a big argument right now as far as the world, but when we get back on track, we'll be our relationship will be stronger than the last time we rectified a major situation. How do you think psychotherapy should contribute to this change? I think that if it was advertised more, more people would get into it. you only get what you give, and you must give to get, ya dig. Q:Do you think it is the job of psychotherapy to change the world?
A: I don’t necessarily depend upon a practice, but more the willingness to want to practice within the person. There is potential in all of us, but some people in my opinion want there to be change (within themselves), and know that the rescourses are all around them, but because of the willpower many people have these days don’t have much ardency to even try make the change.
How would you like the world to change?
Well, I figure the world to be like one big relationship, and to my understanding, a healthy relationship have pretty much equivolent up and downs. I feel that’s the only way of learning, through past mistakes. just think that were in a big argument right now as far as the world, but when we get back on track, we’ll be our relationship will be stronger than the last time we rectified a major situation.
How do you think psychotherapy should contribute to this change?
I think that if it was advertised more, more people would get into it. you only get what you give, and you must give to get, ya dig.

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