Comments on: Possessive Thinking and the Disturbed Character http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/12/10/possessive-thinking/ Looking at life through the prism of psychology, philosophy, mental health and more. Originally created by counsellor, psychotherapist and philosopher Dr Greg Mulhauser, this blog is now the work of an international team of contributors. Sat, 21 Nov 2009 19:07:20 -0500 hourly 1 By: Ken Sack http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/12/10/possessive-thinking/#comment-50743 Ken Sack Mon, 27 Jul 2009 18:48:54 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=981#comment-50743 The comments are straight out of the predicament portrayed in the movie "Sleeping with the enemy" with Julia Roberts. This problem must be common if they made a movie on the topic. The comments are straight out of the predicament portrayed in the movie “Sleeping with the enemy” with Julia Roberts. This problem must be common if they made a movie on the topic.

]]> By: SAHRON WILLIAMS http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/12/10/possessive-thinking/#comment-48580 SAHRON WILLIAMS Tue, 27 Jan 2009 04:06:48 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=981#comment-48580 If any ladies are listening, please pay close attention to what these people are saying. I am in a terrible marriage with a severe control freak. I am now currently planning my escape from him. I let him think everything is okay. I just go along with the program, or so he thinks. My daughter has been emotionally scarred from her stepfather's constant name calling and nick picking with me. We walk on eggshells when he is around. If any ladies are listening, please pay close attention to what these people are saying. I am in a terrible marriage with a severe control freak. I am now currently planning my escape from him. I let him think everything is okay. I just go along with the program, or so he thinks. My daughter has been emotionally scarred from her stepfather’s constant name calling and nick picking with me. We walk on eggshells when he is around.

]]> By: Mia http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/12/10/possessive-thinking/#comment-48359 Mia Sun, 14 Dec 2008 03:27:41 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=981#comment-48359 Hi Janet, How can he not see your position, point of view, etc.? These people are out for themselves and no one else. It is scary to think what they would be capable of doing, seeing that as Dr. Simon points out, if the lose can't have you in his possession, can he let anyone else have you? This is why I left my husband. First I talked with him. He refused counseling, and refused to talk any further with me, after all, there was nothing wrong with the marriage, as far as he was concerned. He began monitoring my every move, asking where....... So I started counseling when I was convinced he wouldn't change his approach to me, or go to counseling. First I went to the Domestic Violence support group to register, in case he did something to me. Up to that point his behavior was menacing, not physical, just like in your case. Then I made an appt. with my pastor. This way my situation is registered with the leadership. I let my fam and friends that there were difficulties. You get the picture. If a civil protection order is filed, you can have 2-5 years where his movements will be cause for his arrest if he comes near you. However, the time depends on the laws of your particular state. What? I didn't hear you say that you would feel bad for him and couldn't dare do that to him, now did I? JANET, DON'T FORGET. YOU ARE THE ONE WITH FEELINGS, HE IS NOT. Stay safe Hi Janet,
How can he not see your position, point of view, etc.?
These people are out for themselves and no one else. It is scary to think what they would be capable of doing, seeing that as Dr. Simon points out, if the lose can’t have you in his possession, can he let anyone else have you?
This is why I left my husband.
First I talked with him. He refused counseling, and refused to talk any further with me, after all, there was nothing wrong with the marriage, as far as he was concerned. He began monitoring my every move, asking where…….
So I started counseling when I was convinced he wouldn’t change his approach to me, or go to counseling.
First I went to the Domestic Violence support group to register, in case he did something to me. Up to that point his behavior was menacing, not physical, just like in your case.
Then I made an appt. with my pastor. This way my situation is registered with the leadership.
I let my fam and friends that there were difficulties.
You get the picture.

If a civil protection order is filed, you can have 2-5 years where his movements will be cause for his arrest if he comes near you.
However, the time depends on the laws of your particular state.
What? I didn’t hear you say that you would feel bad for him and couldn’t dare do that to him, now did I?

JANET, DON’T FORGET. YOU ARE THE ONE WITH FEELINGS, HE IS NOT.

Stay safe

]]> By: Janet Cardenas http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/12/10/possessive-thinking/#comment-48358 Janet Cardenas Fri, 12 Dec 2008 20:45:38 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=981#comment-48358 This blog further details the characteristics of a "loser". I returned to this site today to remind myself to hang tough. I have an ex-boyfriend who would not stop calling me (20 or more times on Sunday). He will not stop even after I don't say a word but just hang up. I have not done anything but hang up immediately when he has called for days. This had been going on for four days so on Monday I paid additional fees to get call blocking in my land line and cell phone. I now have seven different numbers blocked because he keeps using other's phone lines. How can he not see my position...point of view....my emotions? How can he not respect that I don't want to talk to him? It must be that I am just a possession. He called today from a new line and I blocked that one. Do you have any suggestions for me? Thank you, Janet This blog further details the characteristics of a “loser”. I returned to this site today to remind myself to hang tough. I have an ex-boyfriend who would not stop calling me (20 or more times on Sunday). He will not stop even after I don’t say a word but just hang up. I have not done anything but hang up immediately when he has called for days. This had been going on for four days so on Monday I paid additional fees to get call blocking in my land line and cell phone. I now have seven different numbers blocked because he keeps using other’s phone lines.

How can he not see my position…point of view….my emotions? How can he not respect that I don’t want to talk to him? It must be that I am just a possession. He called today from a new line and I blocked that one.

Do you have any suggestions for me?

Thank you,
Janet

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