Comments on: Over 1000 Reader Comments and Questions on ‘Losers’ and Personality Disorders http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/11/15/1000-questions-and-comments/ Looking at life through the prism of psychology, philosophy, mental health and more. Originally created by counsellor, psychotherapist and philosopher Dr Greg Mulhauser, this blog is now the work of an international team of contributors. Sat, 21 Nov 2009 04:52:19 -0500 hourly 1 By: Dr Greg Mulhauser, Managing Editor http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/11/15/1000-questions-and-comments/#comment-50757 Dr Greg Mulhauser, Managing Editor Tue, 28 Jul 2009 12:03:45 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=893#comment-50757 Hi folks, As it's now been more than 3 years since we first published Dr Carver's 'Loser' article, and more than 8 months since this latest post about it appeared, inviting comments on Dr Carver's work, we'll now be closing the comments section for this post. Many thanks to all who have taken the time to comment on Dr Carver's article, and don't forget the <em><a href="http://counsellingresource.com/ask-the-psychologist/" rel="nofollow">Ask the Psychologist</a></em> is always available for sending questions directly to a psychologist for comment. All the best, Greg Hi folks,

As it’s now been more than 3 years since we first published Dr Carver’s ‘Loser’ article, and more than 8 months since this latest post about it appeared, inviting comments on Dr Carver’s work, we’ll now be closing the comments section for this post. Many thanks to all who have taken the time to comment on Dr Carver’s article, and don’t forget the Ask the Psychologist is always available for sending questions directly to a psychologist for comment.

All the best,
Greg

]]> By: Gabriella http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/11/15/1000-questions-and-comments/#comment-50627 Gabriella Mon, 13 Jul 2009 14:33:37 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=893#comment-50627 "I would love to see the link on this fact that some area of the brain with one the suffers from a Personality Disorder is small." The book "Evil Genes: Why Rome Fell, Hitler Rose, Enron Failed, and My Sister Stole My Mother's Boyfriend" by Barbara Oakley explains how the brains of those with PDs differ. Take a look at Chapter 4, "Using Medical Imaging to Understand Psychopaths", and Chapter 8, "Lenses, Frames, and How Broken Brains Work." “I would love to see the link on this fact that some area of the brain with one the suffers from a Personality Disorder is small.”

The book “Evil Genes: Why Rome Fell, Hitler Rose, Enron Failed, and My Sister Stole My Mother’s Boyfriend” by Barbara Oakley explains how the brains of those with PDs differ. Take a look at Chapter 4, “Using Medical Imaging to Understand Psychopaths”, and Chapter 8, “Lenses, Frames, and How Broken Brains Work.”

]]> By: Diane http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/11/15/1000-questions-and-comments/#comment-50624 Diane Mon, 13 Jul 2009 02:15:28 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=893#comment-50624 Thanks James! You too! Peace, Love and Joy, Diane Thanks James!

You too!

Peace, Love and Joy,
Diane

]]> By: James http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/11/15/1000-questions-and-comments/#comment-50623 James Mon, 13 Jul 2009 02:10:47 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=893#comment-50623 Diane, Thanks and yes I do know about Sandra’s web site. She is doing wonderful work in trying to educate other about this social problem. Having been involved and researching this issue for about 3 years now I would have to agree with you and also to warn others to confirm information by viewing a few sources. There is much misinformation concerning this type of disorder insomuch as to reference to the cluster B category. As for my own personal dysfunctional relationship and abuse, this it’s self has been confirm more times then I like to mention. But again it’s best to confirm whatever abused and what type of abuse they suffered from and then try hard to heal and learn from this experience. As for the percentage of female compared to male offender who suffer from some type of disorder with regards to the cluster B; this issue is still under debate. Still to further add to the problematical issues themselves many of those that suffer from this are never diagnose and/or seek treatment. Needless to say they simply drop through the cracks of detection. Sorry but I haven’t had the change to review Dr. Simon blog here yet but will do so when time allows and thank you for the lead. Thanks again very much Diane for your reply and hope you too have a good evening. Diane,

Thanks and yes I do know about Sandra’s web site. She is doing wonderful work in trying to educate other about this social problem.

Having been involved and researching this issue for about 3 years now I would have to agree with you and also to warn others to confirm information by viewing a few sources. There is much misinformation concerning this type of disorder insomuch as to reference to the cluster B category.

As for my own personal dysfunctional relationship and abuse, this it’s self has been confirm more times then I like to mention. But again it’s best to confirm whatever abused and what type of abuse they suffered from and then try hard to heal and learn from this experience.

As for the percentage of female compared to male offender who suffer from some type of disorder with regards to the cluster B; this issue is still under debate. Still to further add to the problematical issues themselves many of those that suffer from this are never diagnose and/or seek treatment. Needless to say they simply drop through the cracks of detection.

Sorry but I haven’t had the change to review Dr. Simon blog here yet but will do so when time allows and thank you for the lead.

Thanks again very much Diane for your reply and hope you too have a good evening.

]]> By: Diane http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/11/15/1000-questions-and-comments/#comment-50622 Diane Mon, 13 Jul 2009 01:04:57 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=893#comment-50622 It's actually on this site...Dr. Simon and I were discussing it on a thread but I do not remember which thread...it may of have been one of his articles on this or one that my questions and intuitions were expressed to him most likely about the fact of unchangeability. Another site that the "number's" info is from the Institute for Relational Harm that is all about pathological relationships. They have a magazine online too www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com with very accurate information. I will warn you that more women are on this site as statistics show violence against woman is higher. And I will also note that abuse is not gender specific by any means and when I came on board here there was quite a few men going through all of this. It actually was about fifty/fifty on this site. The founder of this site is quite amazing. As I found there is a lot of inaccurate information out there. And if truth is important be careful what you decide is accurate as you do your own digging around on the net. When trying to understand your own personal history in regards to being in an abusive relationship. There are often times overlapping traits and experiences involved. Thankfully you found this site as it has tons of accurate and up to date info and new research being posted all the time. Have you checked out Dr. Simon blog here yet? Peace, Love and Joy, Diane It’s actually on this site…Dr. Simon and I were discussing it on a thread but I do not remember which thread…it may of have been one of his articles on this or one that my questions and intuitions were expressed to him most likely about the fact of unchangeability. Another site that the “number’s” info is from the Institute for Relational Harm that is all about pathological relationships. They have a magazine online too
http://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com with very accurate information. I will warn you that more women are on this site as statistics show violence against woman is higher. And I will also note that abuse is not gender specific by any means and when I came on board here there was quite a few men going through all of this. It actually was about fifty/fifty on this site. The founder of this site is quite amazing. As I found there is a lot of inaccurate information out there. And if truth is important be careful what you decide is accurate as you do your own digging around on the net. When trying to understand your own personal history in regards to being in an abusive relationship. There are often times overlapping traits and experiences involved. Thankfully you found this site as it has tons of accurate and up to date info and new research being posted all the time. Have you checked out Dr. Simon blog here yet?

Peace, Love and Joy,
Diane

]]> By: James http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/11/15/1000-questions-and-comments/#comment-50621 James Mon, 13 Jul 2009 00:41:40 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=893#comment-50621 Nadine, Founding a good support group helps one deal with the aftermath of this type of dysfunctional and so glad you have found one here. There are others but be because some of better then others. Good luck in your healing. Nadine, Founding a good support group helps one deal with the aftermath of this type of dysfunctional and so glad you have found one here. There are others but be because some of better then others.

Good luck in your healing.

]]> By: James http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/11/15/1000-questions-and-comments/#comment-50620 James Mon, 13 Jul 2009 00:37:32 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=893#comment-50620 "There’s is much being learned about the brain and also that certain parts of the brain are actually smaller in individuals who have a personality disorder." Diane, I would love to see the link on this fact that some area of the brain with one the suffers from a Personality Disorder is small. I never heard that stated before but thanks for the information. “There’s is much being learned about the brain and also that certain parts of the brain are actually smaller in individuals who have a personality disorder.”

Diane, I would love to see the link on this fact that some area of the brain with one the suffers from a Personality Disorder is small. I never heard that stated before but thanks for the information.

]]> By: Diane http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/11/15/1000-questions-and-comments/#comment-50619 Diane Sun, 12 Jul 2009 22:10:14 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=893#comment-50619 There's is much being learned about the brain and also that certain parts of the brain are actually smaller in individuals who have a personality disorder. It is hard wired physically and that is part of why they can not be helped like others can be. That is why it is pathological and in many ways unchangeable at least right now. Though much work is being done to learn what types medical interventions and psychiatry can be expanded upon that may work to improve the quality of life for them and others in their lives. Over 60 million people are affected negatively by the anti-social personality disorder alone. Imagine the numbers affected by all the other personality disorders we come in contact with either in persaonl relationships or at work etc. It has has to be a really large number. So its important to gain lots of knowledge and learn to practise all the quality actions needed to keep our own healthy lives in tact and protected. Peace, Love,and Joy, Diane There’s is much being learned about the brain and also that certain parts of the brain are actually smaller in individuals who have a personality disorder. It is hard wired physically and that is part of why they can not be helped like others can be. That is why it is pathological and in many ways unchangeable at least right now. Though much work is being done to learn what types medical interventions and psychiatry can be expanded upon that may work to improve the quality of life for them and others in their lives. Over 60 million people are affected negatively by the anti-social personality disorder
alone. Imagine the numbers affected by all the other personality disorders we come in contact with either in persaonl relationships or at work etc. It has has to be a really large number. So its important to gain lots of knowledge and learn to practise all the quality actions needed to keep our own healthy lives in tact and protected.

Peace, Love,and Joy,
Diane

]]> By: Diane http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/11/15/1000-questions-and-comments/#comment-50618 Diane Sun, 12 Jul 2009 21:44:59 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=893#comment-50618 Hi Nadine! Well you are definately facing it now and will be better for dealing with it each and every day that comes your way. I hope you will share more here too as Wendy said, there are many here who have dealt with this and can support your own efforts to gain understanding. One thing is for sure many people who have lived with a aggressive personality, etc. need to complete detachment from them as best they can for their very own well being. And that is really a OK decision! Peace, Love and Joy, Diane Hi Nadine!

Well you are definately facing it now and will be better for dealing with it each and every day that comes your way. I hope you will share more here too as Wendy said, there are many here who have dealt with this and can support your own efforts to gain understanding. One thing is for sure many people who have lived with a aggressive personality, etc. need to complete detachment from them as best they can for their very own well being. And that is really a OK decision!

Peace, Love and Joy,
Diane

]]> By: Wendy http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/11/15/1000-questions-and-comments/#comment-50614 Wendy Sun, 12 Jul 2009 17:15:12 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=893#comment-50614 Hi Nadine, Thanks for posting. It's hard when you realize that "no contact" with someone who meant something to you is the only way to move forward, but in most of the cases discussed on this forum, it is. Feel free to share your story - many of us have been through something similar. Welcome to the forum! ~Wendy Hi Nadine,

Thanks for posting. It’s hard when you realize that “no contact” with someone who meant something to you is the only way to move forward, but in most of the cases discussed on this forum, it is. Feel free to share your story – many of us have been through something similar.

Welcome to the forum!
~Wendy

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