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	<description>Looking at life through the prism of psychology, philosophy, mental health and more. Originally created by counsellor, psychotherapist and philosopher Dr Greg Mulhauser, this blog is now the work of an international team of contributors.</description>
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		<title>By: Diane</title>
		<link>http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/09/22/trusting/#comment-47698</link>
		<dc:creator>Diane</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 01 Oct 2008 03:24:32 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hi Evan and All,

I think trust and love walk hand in hand. Simultaneous so to speak!
If your trust is faltering for any reason, you pull away the love as well.. Because fear is usually happening in some form. Which discernment could be playing into it or emotional memory as well. 

If you have been abused/ or suffered betrayal which is quite a similar sense I think. They both cause trust to be broken. Which often makes a person reframe experience and look and examine different possibilities in relationships with others. Discernment qualities rise to attention. And life does get scarier.  At least for a time it does.

Trust has to be relearned and different boundaries may be put up... after abuse/betrayal some may last, others are up for awhile until your trust facter rises.

To care for another human being, plant, earth etc. is an act of love.

Personally each day my trust/love in others is on my mind and in my heart. My day goes by with such a higher quality of presence. I am more at ease  like you Evan. I find it frees me up to be more available to everyone I encounter from family to a person in a store, or at work. Smiling and joy just come more easily. 

Yes, some people are not to be trusted as well. I agree with that.
That is a fact of life here. 

You don&#039;t have to choose trust...but it sure beats the alternative.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi Evan and All,</p>
<p>I think trust and love walk hand in hand. Simultaneous so to speak!<br />
If your trust is faltering for any reason, you pull away the love as well.. Because fear is usually happening in some form. Which discernment could be playing into it or emotional memory as well. </p>
<p>If you have been abused/ or suffered betrayal which is quite a similar sense I think. They both cause trust to be broken. Which often makes a person reframe experience and look and examine different possibilities in relationships with others. Discernment qualities rise to attention. And life does get scarier.  At least for a time it does.</p>
<p>Trust has to be relearned and different boundaries may be put up&#8230; after abuse/betrayal some may last, others are up for awhile until your trust facter rises.</p>
<p>To care for another human being, plant, earth etc. is an act of love.</p>
<p>Personally each day my trust/love in others is on my mind and in my heart. My day goes by with such a higher quality of presence. I am more at ease  like you Evan. I find it frees me up to be more available to everyone I encounter from family to a person in a store, or at work. Smiling and joy just come more easily. </p>
<p>Yes, some people are not to be trusted as well. I agree with that.<br />
That is a fact of life here. </p>
<p>You don&#8217;t have to choose trust&#8230;but it sure beats the alternative.</p>
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		<title>By: Evan Hadkins</title>
		<link>http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/09/22/trusting/#comment-47682</link>
		<dc:creator>Evan Hadkins</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 27 Sep 2008 13:01:57 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hi Diane,

Thanks for your comment there is lots in it.

Maybe the loving you speak of and the caring that Lunna speaks of are different.  The loving you care of may have more sense of mutuality - though Lunna may disagree.

Do you think that trust comes before love?  Maybe sometimes love comes first (especially in-love, but this may not be the love you mean).

Life is scary without trust.  But some peoples experience of abuse and betrayal may mean that life is scary for them.

There&#039;s lots for me to think about in your comment.  I&#039;d like to hear more of your experience of life getting better if you trust.

Thanks again for your comment.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi Diane,</p>
<p>Thanks for your comment there is lots in it.</p>
<p>Maybe the loving you speak of and the caring that Lunna speaks of are different.  The loving you care of may have more sense of mutuality &#8211; though Lunna may disagree.</p>
<p>Do you think that trust comes before love?  Maybe sometimes love comes first (especially in-love, but this may not be the love you mean).</p>
<p>Life is scary without trust.  But some peoples experience of abuse and betrayal may mean that life is scary for them.</p>
<p>There&#8217;s lots for me to think about in your comment.  I&#8217;d like to hear more of your experience of life getting better if you trust.</p>
<p>Thanks again for your comment.</p>
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		<title>By: Diane</title>
		<link>http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/09/22/trusting/comment-page-1/#comment-47677</link>
		<dc:creator>Diane</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 27 Sep 2008 03:53:36 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I think trust is a need and a requirement in life. Otherwise life is scary even after betrayals it is fundamental to your survival. And since love is the most important thing. Trust is a basic partner to that. Everyday gets better if you trust. love comes when you trust.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I think trust is a need and a requirement in life. Otherwise life is scary even after betrayals it is fundamental to your survival. And since love is the most important thing. Trust is a basic partner to that. Everyday gets better if you trust. love comes when you trust.</p>
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		<title>By: Evan Hadkins</title>
		<link>http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/09/22/trusting/comment-page-1/#comment-47672</link>
		<dc:creator>Evan Hadkins</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 26 Sep 2008 09:32:11 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hi Lunna,

I agree that trust is easily broken and not easily restored.  I think sometimes it is good that we don&#039;t trust that person or situation again.  Others may disagree strongly with this I guess.

Thanks for your comment.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi Lunna,</p>
<p>I agree that trust is easily broken and not easily restored.  I think sometimes it is good that we don&#8217;t trust that person or situation again.  Others may disagree strongly with this I guess.</p>
<p>Thanks for your comment.</p>
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		<title>By: lunna</title>
		<link>http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/09/22/trusting/comment-page-1/#comment-47671</link>
		<dc:creator>lunna</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 26 Sep 2008 04:19:43 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I think you can care for a person but not trust her/him. Specially if is a person that gained your complete trust and then suddenly &quot;screw it up&quot;. I definitely agreed with the comment, trust is easily broken,but not easily restored and in some cases is never restored.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I think you can care for a person but not trust her/him. Specially if is a person that gained your complete trust and then suddenly &#8220;screw it up&#8221;. I definitely agreed with the comment, trust is easily broken,but not easily restored and in some cases is never restored.</p>
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		<title>By: Evan Hadkins</title>
		<link>http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/09/22/trusting/comment-page-1/#comment-47670</link>
		<dc:creator>Evan Hadkins</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 25 Sep 2008 22:33:41 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Thanks Silence.  Would you like to say more about this?  Does not trusting affect your caring action?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thanks Silence.  Would you like to say more about this?  Does not trusting affect your caring action?</p>
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		<title>By: Silence</title>
		<link>http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/09/22/trusting/comment-page-1/#comment-47669</link>
		<dc:creator>Silence</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 25 Sep 2008 20:10:34 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I no longer trust. I CARE for and about people, things, places, situations, but I refuse to trust.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I no longer trust. I CARE for and about people, things, places, situations, but I refuse to trust.</p>
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		<title>By: Human Development in a Cooling World</title>
		<link>http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/09/22/trusting/comment-page-1/#comment-47668</link>
		<dc:creator>Human Development in a Cooling World</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 25 Sep 2008 16:02:11 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] Mich d Dot  Evan Hadkins  (read his article &#8220;Trusting&#8220;) [...]</description>
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		<title>By: Evan Hadkins</title>
		<link>http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/09/22/trusting/comment-page-1/#comment-47667</link>
		<dc:creator>Evan Hadkins</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 25 Sep 2008 12:29:56 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Thanks Sarah.  Very well put.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thanks Sarah.  Very well put.</p>
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		<title>By: Sarah Luczaj</title>
		<link>http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/09/22/trusting/comment-page-1/#comment-47665</link>
		<dc:creator>Sarah Luczaj</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 25 Sep 2008 08:36:28 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>interesting post, Evan. 

There is something about trust feeling good and lack of trust feeling bad, and betrayal of trust is an awful thing. Something I have found helpful in working with clients is the realisation that you can trust the part of yourself that doesn&#039;t automatically trust, i.e. you can trust your own discernment process.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>interesting post, Evan. </p>
<p>There is something about trust feeling good and lack of trust feeling bad, and betrayal of trust is an awful thing. Something I have found helpful in working with clients is the realisation that you can trust the part of yourself that doesn&#8217;t automatically trust, i.e. you can trust your own discernment process.</p>
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