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Linda1
Trust is easily broken, but not easily restored.
I believe trust is an innate behavior in childhood. However, as we grow along our path towards puberty and adult, somewhere along the line trust alters its state and becomes a learned behavior; one has either learned to trust or learned not to trust.
Discernment, however, is not usually an inborn trait. It is usually acquired through life experiences and most always involving trust issues.
Indeed, for most people, trust is a personal matter.
Thank you for your post.
Linda
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Evan Hadkins2
Thanks for your comment Linda.
If those around are trustworthy during our childhood I guess trust starts being learned around the time analytical thinking kicks in – around age 10-12.
I think you’re right that discernment isn’t innate in the same way that trust is.
I guess how much trust we have as we come into puberty and adulthood depends on our earlier experiences. I think you are right too that trust is a personal matter.
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Sarah Luczaj3
interesting post, Evan.
There is something about trust feeling good and lack of trust feeling bad, and betrayal of trust is an awful thing. Something I have found helpful in working with clients is the realisation that you can trust the part of yourself that doesn’t automatically trust, i.e. you can trust your own discernment process.
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Evan Hadkins4
Thanks Sarah. Very well put.
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I no longer trust. I CARE for and about people, things, places, situations, but I refuse to trust.
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Evan Hadkins7
Thanks Silence. Would you like to say more about this? Does not trusting affect your caring action?
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lunna8
I think you can care for a person but not trust her/him. Specially if is a person that gained your complete trust and then suddenly “screw it up”. I definitely agreed with the comment, trust is easily broken,but not easily restored and in some cases is never restored.
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Evan Hadkins9
Hi Lunna,
I agree that trust is easily broken and not easily restored. I think sometimes it is good that we don’t trust that person or situation again. Others may disagree strongly with this I guess.
Thanks for your comment.
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Diane10
I think trust is a need and a requirement in life. Otherwise life is scary even after betrayals it is fundamental to your survival. And since love is the most important thing. Trust is a basic partner to that. Everyday gets better if you trust. love comes when you trust.
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