Comments on: Do You Know the Prescription for Unhealthy Relationships?

By: margaret

margaret — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 00:50:34 +0000

Diane – a person who takes charge of their life is focused on managing their own life. A controller is focused on managing YOUR life.

By: Diane

Diane — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 09:10:20 +0000

Dr. Carver,
Expoerts are always saying take charge of your life. What ‘s the difference between a controller and someone who’s taking charge of their life. Also is it possible for you to give a list of green light
signs when dating? Maybe a new article? That would be great. Thanks for your time! Also thanks for all your articles I’ve been practicing!

By: MiaFran

MiaFran — Mon, 09 Jun 2008 01:27:53 +0000

Isabella,
The workshop is for people who’ve understood something was wrong in their relationship and find through research and asking the right people, that there is a set of characteristics which their loved one exhibits that closely allign with the Loser characteristics.

Then comes the “Now What?”

By: isabella mori

isabella mori — Sun, 08 Jun 2008 19:46:56 +0000

so the workshop is for people who thought to themselves, “wait a second, this guy/gal in my life is actually a loser, and NOW what do i do?”

By: Jo Anne

Jo Anne — Sat, 07 Jun 2008 13:23:25 +0000

Daughter in abusive relationship, has two children by previous marriages. Abuser abused children but just had court last week and she is taking up for abuser. As a parent, we made sure the children were safe but now I need help. I love my daughter and want to help her. How do I do this when she does not recognize the danger she put her children in.

By: MiaFran

MiaFran — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 06:09:22 +0000

Isabella,

Thanks for that question. To me the word “Loser” is the lightbulb that turns on in the brain when one realizes the person they have been living for and loving is indeed unhappy and unwilling to change.

By: isabella mori

isabella mori — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 05:08:02 +0000

i wonder – where does the label ‘loser’ come from? in my experience, many people who are abusive, controlling or manipulative are deeply unhappy themselves. and if someone is still involved with such a person – do they call them losers? or do they call them losers AFTER they’ve woken up to the fact that this doesn’t work for them and have separated?

By: MiaFran

MiaFran — Mon, 05 May 2008 17:08:23 +0000

Sandra,
I am so sorry you are going through something in your marriage.

After asking my spouse for several months off and on to communicate with me and being put off, I suggested to him that we both go to counseling, that maybe he would feel better talking to someone else, with or without my presence. When answered with a flat “NO” I went by myself. Very good decision.

Also, skim through this site and use the “Just Ask” feature to get some feedback from Dr. Carver.

By: Sandra

Sandra — Mon, 05 May 2008 16:57:14 +0000

I am not happy in my marridge.

By: MiaFran

MiaFran — Sat, 03 May 2008 13:49:09 +0000

The seminar looks really good. Hoping to get to one in the NW Ohio area when it comes here.