I’m Not a Feminist, But…

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Now what would you think if someone said “it’s not that I’m anti-racist or anything, but I don’t believe in discriminating against people because of their race”?

Now what would you think if someone said “it’s not that I’m anti-racist or anything, but I don’t believe in discriminating against people because of their race”?

I have just received an invitation to a women-only gathering, explicitly signalled as “not feminist or anything like that”. Heaven forbid!

What exactly is it supposed to mean? We are only interested in our personal experience and this is not political? We are anti-intellectuals? We are not too serious? We don’t agree with orthodoxy? We are not threatening? We are not interested in the past? We are young? We are attractive? We are not lesbians?

I imagine that every woman who comes out with this (almost invariably before coming out with a feminist point) has a different motivation. Just as every woman who calls herself a feminist has a different philosophy and a different reason for doing so.

As I see it the only thing that all the ‘not feminists but…’ have in common is that they are publicly adding to a sense of feminism and the individual women who identify themselves in this way as possibly dangerous and definitely undesirable to others.

Correspondingly, the only thing feminists have in common is that they are saying “being a woman is a fundamental fact of my existence, and I claim my right to express that in any way I see fit, and not have my opportunities or rights restricted because of my sex”.

And why not?

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About the Author: Sarah Luczaj is a person-centred counsellor, poet and translator from the UK. She has been living in rural Poland since 1997 with her husband and two daughters. She works as a therapist in a women's centre and has a private practice.

This article was last reviewed by Sarah Luczaj on Tuesday, 12th February 2008. You can leave a response below.

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One Response to “I’m Not a Feminist, But…”

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    Evan
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    Hi Sarah,

    I too find this comment bizarre - it is usually followed by something the feminists won: like equal pay for equal work (although this is now eroded by qualifications).

    I do think it says something about the way feminists are perceived (strident?). So maybe there is more work to do on the healthy expression of anger (and not just for feminists or even women).

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