What you say is so dense I feel disoriented reading it.

The beginning of a response for me is that: we can communicate - profoundly and intimately - even though we have our differences. Even talking about our differences can lead us closer, not further apart. This is a quite different approach to being judgemental. Without having absorbed everything you say, I think this is the beginning point.

Self harm as clearly noted is a survival skill. Harming is a fear of death, yet the border to it. Dealing with such emotions builds a fear of one self, a misunderstanding of our emotions. I look at life as a game, I used to self harm….walking around with memories engraved into my body. Yet is it the pain we are releasing or is it the releasing of distortion, and an escape rout out of reality. Life as I said I live like game. Emotions are something no one can understand, yet we fight against. We all run towards that same finish line, and urge ourselves to leave satisfied. Yet satisfaction can not truly be found for dissapointment is something we can’t hide from. Releasing each story through a blad lets the confusion settle, yet the pain grow. Each step takes you closer to the finish and closer to self relisation. Processing our lives, and re-avaluating the choices of others influences choices of one. Yet happiness is seeked through others, but can we be happy being the only one on this planet, with no knowledge of lonliness? Is happiness an emotion or is it a need….? To be truly satisfied one must love every aspect of oneself…can that be done? Lonliness with the knowledge…can it be done? Cutting is a fear of death, a hope for a mistaken death, yet purpose of pain. Purpose of letting go, to open more doors. Each time you let go, you let more in. How is it, that one thinks that self harm is a mental illness. Is it not a scewed thinking , or misunderstanding of others thought purpose…in that its self is that not alone a mental illness. In life there are degrees od severity, yet we are not wired the same. If each one thinks different, than how can there be agreement on lifes challenges and coping skills of others. With out agreement, there can never be no jugment…yet juging is a degree of mental illness in its self. Tell me…what truly akes someone ill…is it we can murder…the eating problems…self harm…thought process? or does soicity place a label on the knowledge we really don not have? Without the labels we would all be “sane”

I do think thought that the self-harem is also a response to the deadening. These are complex issues - and probably beyond the limits of a comment on a blog I think.

Thankyou for raising such an important issue and dealing with it in such a thoughtful and compassionate way.

This leads into a huge range of discussions about how pain is responded to by society. Eg being encouraged to take pain killers so you can keep working. Is this not a mild form of self-harm?