“550 Reader Comments on Dr Carver’s ‘Loser’ Article” Comments, Page 37

365 Responses to “550 Reader Comments on Dr Carver’s ‘Loser’ Article”

1. 

   Mark

   14th November 2008

   361

   WOW!

   So as you all know, sunday was my ex’s birthday and yesterday was her son’s. I did not call, to be honest I didn’t even have the urge to call and I felt damn good about that.

   Today.

   I’m sitting at my computer, its about 430 in the afternoon when I see my cell phone flashing…I look, and its some weird 15 digit number, so I’m like ok telemarketers must be going to extremes these days. I don’t answer, obviously, but 2 minutes later I get a message saying I got a new voicemail. So I call my voice mail and it says you have one new message. I start listening and I hear the words “Hi, It’s me” Guess who that was?

   Immediately I hang up because I don’t even want to hear her voice and I don’t want to hear what she has to say. 6 minutes later, the same number, calling again…So I’m like ok what the hell, where is she even calling from, I check the area code and its Germany!!! we live in Ontario Canada.

   Then I remembered that she had a business trip out to Germany sometime in Nov.

   So here’s the thing, her first call was at 4:41pm and her last call was at 5:47pm. During this time she called FIVE times!!!

   I did not, and will not listen to her voicemails because I know I’m still vulnerable and just in case, I need to avoid them at all costs.

   Anyway, Hopefully this does not continue…I will keep everyone posted.

   Staying Strong!
   
   
2. 

   Wendy

   14th November 2008

   362

   Mark,

   Good for you! You’re saving yourself a lot of turmoil by not listening to the messages. Keep at it and they will stop.

   Thanks for the update!

   ~Wendy
   
   
3. 

   margaret

   14th November 2008

   363

   We all could have predicted this. Because she knows you are a loving, emphathetic person who cared very much about her and her child, she expected you to contact her on her birthday (her selfish ego at work). Or, if not her, her child (your weak spot). When you didn’t, she had to ring your chimes…yank your chain…just to make sure you were still on backburner for her, whenever she needed. She’s testing the waters for her own ends. Hang tough. She’s playing her personality disordered game. Think about it…what normal person calls 5 times within an hour after a relationship has been over for some time? She is poison ivy.
   
   
4. 

   Christina

   14th November 2008

   364

   Mark,

   It is great to hear that you are being resilient. It does feel good, doesn’t it, to not act on our vulnerability?

   Be strong…I know it will be hard if it does continue but you know what the right thing to do is…
   
   
5. 

   Dr Greg Mulhauser, Managing Editor

   15th November 2008

   365

   Hi folks,

   Many thanks to you all for your continued comments and for the great support which folks have been offering to one another!

   In order to keep the response from our server snappy, we’re going to open a new thread for continuing comments, while closing this current thread. Don’t worry, the discussion can continue exactly as before, we’re just moving on to a new individual post so the server doesn’t get bogged down. Here’s the new thread:

   http://counsellingresource.com/features/2008/11/15/1000-questions-and-comments/

   Thanks again for all your comments!

   All the best,
   Greg
   
   

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