By: mel smith

mel smith — Tue, 20 Nov 2007 12:23:18 +0000

I value your opinion but I am unsure if I can totally agree. From personal experience I do not think you can class parents as those who use ‘cry it out’ and those who are anti this. All the parents I have worked with (and also myself) have been very nurturing parents who just need a good run of sleep! Your posting on attachment parenting totally sums up the on demand breastfeeding and cuddle routine I used with both my kids. However both my partner and I have always been very clear that bedtime is just that – going to bed in your own bed! This was put in place for both my children from very early on and meant they learnt to self sooth to (a) get to sleep and (b) return to sleep if they woke at night.It did not mean ignoring their needs or psychologically damaging them. Both my children have a high level of self esteem and are very socially confident. They are highly kinesthetic and we all get a good sleep each night. They are both very articulate as to their needs and will always make sure I wake up if they need me at night.I am not sure if I can whole heartedly agree to the “Don’t be upset, don’t ask for help, you will only be ignored” idea as I feel this has to be viewed holisitcally not just on issue of sleep!
Hope this can provide an alternative view point.

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By: mel smith