Comments on: Not Listening to the Voice of Anorexia http://counsellingresource.com/features/2007/10/09/anorexia-narrative-therapy/ Looking at life through the prism of psychology, philosophy, mental health and more. Originally created by counsellor, psychotherapist and philosopher Dr Greg Mulhauser, this blog is now the work of an international team of contributors. Fri, 25 May 2012 16:17:12 +0000 hourly 1 By: Sarah Luczaj http://counsellingresource.com/features/2007/10/09/anorexia-narrative-therapy/comment-page-1/#comment-48805 Sarah Luczaj Thu, 19 Feb 2009 13:23:20 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/2007/10/09/anorexia-narrative-therapy/#comment-48805 Jexter, I can hear that you are struggling terribly and almost 'beyond despair' at the moment. It is easy for me to say, not knowing you or seeing you, but the fact that you have written so much here says to me that it is not quite so indifferent to you whether you live or die. I would urge you to go and see a counselllor, face to face, to talk to a doctor or a friend. I would also say, with some confidence, even not knowing you, that I can appreciate how it feels now, but it isn't a matter of indifference to your children whether you live or die. Maybe the question isn't is it right or wrong but is it really what you want? A life without this degree of suffering is possible. Please get the help that you need. Jexter, I can hear that you are struggling terribly and almost ‘beyond despair’ at the moment. It is easy for me to say, not knowing you or seeing you, but the fact that you have written so much here says to me that it is not quite so indifferent to you whether you live or die.

I would urge you to go and see a counselllor, face to face, to talk to a doctor or a friend. I would also say, with some confidence, even not knowing you, that I can appreciate how it feels now, but it isn’t a matter of indifference to your children whether you live or die. Maybe the question isn’t is it right or wrong but is it really what you want? A life without this degree of suffering is possible. Please get the help that you need.

]]> By: Jexter http://counsellingresource.com/features/2007/10/09/anorexia-narrative-therapy/comment-page-1/#comment-48791 Jexter Wed, 18 Feb 2009 09:22:17 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/2007/10/09/anorexia-narrative-therapy/#comment-48791 I'm really stuggling right now. I was bulimic for around 15 years which followed just a brief bout with anorexia. I'm in my 40's now and the same issues are resurfacing. I started drinking to make the difficult dayas livable, but it's too much. Starving is much more my style. At the end of the day, I need SOMETHING to take me away. Food seems to be the easiest. It will allow me to look better on the way out of life, anyway (I have gained weight over the years). That will buy me some time, anyway. The funny thing is that whenever I erupt into tears over this, it's because I don't understand what the big deal is. Logically, I get why killing oneself is bad and sad and all the other emotions that just aren't practical. But I don't get what the big deal is. At the end of the day, whether I stay or go is irrelevant. For my parents and siblings and for my kids. While I know it would make them sad, it seems as though it would be easier for them - and indeed, give them something to bond over - if this were to happen. I think I cry because I'm at a loss for the dilemma over the logic of staying and the logic of going. The logic of going isn't really an issue. The bigger issue is WHY it is an issue. Part of me knows it's wrong, but the bigger part of me says it is right. I don't know. For now, not eating is the one thing I can cling to. I don't have anything else. I’m really stuggling right now. I was bulimic for around 15 years which followed just a brief bout with anorexia.

I’m in my 40′s now and the same issues are resurfacing. I started drinking to make the difficult dayas livable, but it’s too much. Starving is much more my style. At the end of the day, I need SOMETHING to take me away.

Food seems to be the easiest. It will allow me to look better on the way out of life, anyway (I have gained weight over the years). That will buy me some time, anyway.

The funny thing is that whenever I erupt into tears over this, it’s because I don’t understand what the big deal is. Logically, I get why killing oneself is bad and sad and all the other emotions that just aren’t practical. But I don’t get what the big deal is. At the end of the day, whether I stay or go is irrelevant. For my parents and siblings and for my kids. While I know it would make them sad, it seems as though it would be easier for them – and indeed, give them something to bond over – if this were to happen.

I think I cry because I’m at a loss for the dilemma over the logic of staying and the logic of going. The logic of going isn’t really an issue. The bigger issue is WHY it is an issue. Part of me knows it’s wrong, but the bigger part of me says it is right.

I don’t know. For now, not eating is the one thing I can cling to. I don’t have anything else.

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