http://counsellingresource.com/features/2007/10/02/attachment-parenting/ Looking at life through the prism of psychology, philosophy, mental health and more. Originally created by counsellor, psychotherapist and philosopher Dr Greg Mulhauser, this blog is now the work of an international team of contributors. Sat, 21 Nov 2009 13:41:22 -0500 hourly 1 http://counsellingresource.com/features/2007/10/02/attachment-parenting/#comment-42900 Laurie Siegel Sun, 17 Feb 2008 10:38:57 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/2007/10/02/attachment-parenting/#comment-42900 As a child grows, I believe it is vital for a parent to separate from his problems without separating from him. The only way I can do that is by managing the difficult task of detachment. It is the only hope for his independence; It is the only route to mine. It forces him to take charge of his own life. Detachment allows me to take pleasure in the moment even if the loved one is in pain. I can support him with my love and stay connected even if I don't agree with or understand his choices. It is a mark of wisdom to understand that I have the power to be a non-judgemental witness to my emotions, thoughts, and memories without being controlled by them or act in self-destructive ways. Detachment - acknowledging one's true wants, can be not an act of self-indulgence, but an act of courage. As a child grows, I believe it is vital for a parent to separate from his problems without separating from him. The only way I can do that is by managing the difficult task of detachment. It is the only hope for his independence;
It is the only route to mine. It forces him to take charge of his own life. Detachment allows me to take pleasure in the moment even if the loved one is in pain. I can support him with my love and stay connected even if I don’t agree with or understand his choices.
It is a mark of wisdom to understand that I have the power to be a non-judgemental witness to my emotions, thoughts, and memories without being controlled by them or act in self-destructive ways.
Detachment – acknowledging one’s true wants, can be not an act of self-indulgence, but an act of courage.

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