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  Managing Editor

  28th March 2007

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  Hi folks,

  Thanks again to everyone who has posted their thoughts and feelings and questions about Dr Carver’s article! We’ve now started a third discussion thread to accommodate even more feedback; please stop by there if you’d like to leave a question or comment for Dr Carver:

  Psychologist’s Description of “The Loser” Rings True

  All the best,
  Greg

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  James

  28th March 2007

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  [Editor's Note: Comment moved to new discussion thread for feedback from Dr Carver.]

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  Joseph M Carver Ph.D.

  26th March 2007

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  Dear Lauryn: Paranoid control is not a good sign. It tells us a lot of things about him. First, he feels you are his property of sorts which gives him the right to control what you do. Second, he feels you must answer to him at all times. He has no interest or consideration for your personal privacy or interests. Third, he feels entitled to demand these things from you, that same belief also makes him feel entitled to punish or harass you when you violate his rules. Lastly, paranoid control is only the tip of a very scary iceberg. He is working on separating you first from males in your life. He will next separate you from friends and eventually family. This behavior doesn’t decrease with time - it increases. Be very careful here. Dr. Carver