Ask the Psychologist, Page 274

What would a psychologist say? There's an easy way to find out: just ask! Get feedback directly from a Clinical Psychologist on issues ranging from relationships to depression and anxiety, trauma, and a whole bunch more. Please note that replies are provided for informational and educational purposes only.

Found Message on Girlfriend’s Phone to Ex-Boyfriend…Should I Leave Her?

By Dr Joseph M Carver, PhD | 11 December 2007

Q: I found a message in my girlfriend’s phone to her ex-boy friend. The message read thus “Though our feelings r diminishing I will always keep our memories alive. At times I may feel to share with you but something keeps me down. I am always scared.”
I want to leave her. Should I or should [...]

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Abusive Past Intruding Into My Marriage

By Dr Joseph M Carver, PhD | 11 December 2007

Q: I’m 24yrs old and married. I’m a women that’s having problems in my marriage because of my past. I’ve been abused by my parents, especially my dad who always used to beat me, and I’m the middle child that’s always picked on. Over the years it’s made me very hard-hearted, full of hatred, stubborn [...]

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Why Do Therapists Ask for the Age of An Abuser?

By Dr Joseph M Carver, PhD | 10 December 2007

Q: Why do therapists always ask how old my brother was when he sexually abused me? Over the years I’ve seen several therapists and they always ask that. What difference does it make? (So the answer is, I was 7 and he was 14.)

A: This is a common question that is asked for several reasons. [...]

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Sweating During Presentations

By Dr Joseph M Carver, PhD | 10 December 2007

Q: I suffer from situational shyness and I’m also bipolar. My bipolar is currently stabilized with carbamazepine and Paxil. I have always been shy to a certain degree but have worked very hard to overcome this stumbling block. When I was in high school I would actually become almost mute due to my anxiety. However, [...]

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Dealing With an Abusive Mother

By Dr Joseph M Carver, PhD | 10 December 2007

Q: I’m writing in response to the person who asked you for advice regarding their abusive father. I am in the same position, although I am still accepting that I have an abusive parent (this is my Mother). I have decided to detach from the family because of my Mother, but I am still in [...]

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