New Graduate and I Can’t Keep My Mood Stable

Reader’s Question

I’m 21 yrs old. I’m a graduate and now I’m employed. My problem is that sometimes my mind is fully desperated and I lose all my confidence and feel lonely. But on the other hand, sometimes I feel fully free. I can’t keep a stable mind.

Our Consulting Clinical Psychologist’s Reply

From the situation you describe, you may be experiencing the stress of recent lifestyle changes. Recent graduate, new job, probably new location, new responsibilities, etc. — all of these things increase our stress level. Mixed feelings — going from depressed to feeling free — are very common. We sometimes forget that positive changes in our life can be very stressful. Graduation, getting a job — all these things are very positive for us — yet very stressful at the same time. When we have these mixed moods during a stressful time, those moods slowly stabilize as we become more comfortable in our lifestyle. We start finding interests/hobbies and ways to manage our stress and responsibilities. Look on the internet for stress-reduction techniques. At home, develop evening or weekend rituals/activities that help you calm down and reduce your stress.

If your stress level is making it very difficult for you to enjoy your lifestyle, you may want to consider seeking counseling in your community. The first level of counseling might be people in your family or on the job. Look for someone you know who handles stress well, or has a lot of responsibility, then ask them for helpful hints. How do they manage it? You can also seek the support of mental health counselors in your community.

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