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By Dr Greg Mulhauser

Come on in and make yourself at home! Compare types of counselling and psychotherapy, take self-tests and quizzes, identify symptoms, look up medications, or learn about secure online therapy. You can also ask one of our psychologists a question, or read some of the more than one thousand questions left anonymously by other readers. Just choose a section from the tabs at the top of the page to get started.

Ask the Psychologist!

  • Depression and Procrastination Since Parents Divorced
    Mon, 08 Feb 2010 Q: I think I have a severe issue with procrastination. I have a habit of not completing or sticking with tasks or holding down jobs. Basically, I was a very good student when I as young. But after my parents divorced I stopped bothering with school. My mum actually suffers with me. She always believed me [...]
  • Should Baby and I Stay With Boyfriend Who Blames Me for Everything?
    Mon, 08 Feb 2010 Q: My boyfriend blames me for everything that goes wrong in our relationship. For example, when we are in the company of his friends he will never ask how am I doing, or seem to take notice of me. When I approach him about it, he questions me why he should ask, since he has [...]
  • Can’t Get 11-Year-Old Son to Stop Lying
    Mon, 08 Feb 2010 Q: My son is 11 years old. He is always telling lies. I think it might be because he is afraid of telling the truth. We have tried all sorts of ways to try and make him understand that it’s wrong to lie. But he still does it. Please help. Any advice would be appreciated. A: Very young [...]
  • Infatuation and Obsession: Am I a Stalker?
    Fri, 05 Feb 2010 Q: I’m an 18-year-old male from the UK. Around a year ago I began watching a certain TV program. One of the actresses in the program is my age. I initially looked up the actress purely out of curiosity. But lately I’ve been thinking about this actress more and more. I felt a bit of [...]
  • My Husband Seems to Prefer Adult Web Sites to Sex with Me
    Fri, 05 Feb 2010 Q: My husband and I have known each other for 10 years and have been married for seven. We also have a seven-year-old child. I have been off of the birth control pill for 4 years now. My husband is rarely sexual with me anymore, and just a few months ago I realized that he masturbates. [...]
  • I Used to Turn Heads, But Now I’ve Turned 50, I’m Invisible
    Thu, 04 Feb 2010 Q: I have found that now that I am older (just turned 50), the men I attract are “lower quality” than the ones I used to attract. Just because I’m older, does it mean I have to settle for less? I don’t mean to sound narcissistic, but I used to “turn heads” whenever I entered a [...]
  • Mom’s Vain, Self-Centered, Negative and Narcissistic Personality
    Thu, 04 Feb 2010 Q: My mother has always been overly negative about everything and everyone except herself. She is also vain. For example, she is 79 and refuses to tell anyone her age, even to the point that she wouldn’t put my dad’s birthday on his headstone lest anyone think she is that old. She is emotionally draining [...]
  • Controlling Mother vs. My Relationship With My Girlfriend
    Thu, 04 Feb 2010 Q: My mother has liked to control everything I’ve ever done since I started high school, and I was OK with this because she was paying for it. Now I’m in college, and she doesn’t pay for anything (it comes from me), yet she still tries to control me. Ever since I started going out [...]
  • PTSD and Domestic Violence
    Wed, 03 Feb 2010 Q: First of all, let me say thank you. This site has really been helpful to me in the process of healing myself. I’ve found myself in a somewhat tight spot now though, and need some input. I’m presently jobless, homeless, and pregnant. But before I was any of the above, I went in to an [...]
  • Decision Making as a Teen
    Wed, 03 Feb 2010 Q: I’m 16, and I feel like I am always confused about everything. I constantly feel like I can’t make my own decisions. I also feel like I think way too much about things, to the point of being very stressed out about it. I feel happy sometimes, so I don’t think it is depression, [...]
  • Every Single Event in My Childhood is Haunting Me Now
    Wed, 03 Feb 2010 Q: I’m 20 years old, and I’ve come to realize that I really need some help. I can’t go to my local psychiatrist because it is very expensive, and I am a student without much money. I had a very normal life for some time — a very nice family with no fighting, and my parents [...]
  • Missing Home and Missing Out On Life to Be With Boyfriend
    Wed, 03 Feb 2010 Q: About a year ago I moved from Texas to California so that I could be with my boyfriend all the time. I left a whole life in Texas behind me, sacrificing everything. At the time, I felt like moving was an ultimatum for the relationship. My boyfriend does not want to be in Texas [...]
  • Marriage Lasted 4 Months Before Separation
    Tue, 02 Feb 2010 Q: My wife and I dated for about a year and a half before we got married. After we got married, things changed. Within 4 months, we separated. If you ask her, I was too jealous and insecure. If you ask me, I didn’t like her spending time with her guy friends who were single [...]
  • Managing Stress, Depression and Anxiety in Wake of Father’s Illness
    Tue, 02 Feb 2010 Q: I’m a young woman from Morocco. I’m 23 and still a student. I saw a psychologist for almost two years. After a year, I began to feel better, but now I’m starting to feel lost again. Everything was fine until my father got sick. I have two siblings who have stable marriages. My dad got [...]
  • Is it Normal to Fantasize About a Teacher?
    Tue, 02 Feb 2010 Q: I am a teenager, and I have a small crush on a teacher at my school. This teacher is probably about 25 years my senior. Actually, I’ve never had this man as a teacher for any of my classes. I haven’t even spoken to him for that matter. I guess you could call it [...]
  • Control, Domestic Violence and Emotional Abuse
    Tue, 02 Feb 2010 Q: I have been married 2 1/2 years to a man who was charming when we courted but is dominating now, and verbally abusive. His wife of 25 years committed suicide 6 years ago. (He taunted her she would never do it, but she indeed did do it.) His 30-year-old daughter has been assessed as [...]
  • Parenting: Boundaries and Child Behavior
    Mon, 01 Feb 2010 Q: My son (almost 8 years old) seems to have a problem with his coping skills. When he gets frustrated or angry, he physically lashes out by either throwing something and ultimately breaking it or by threatening physical violence on another person — usually his sister or us, his parents. He does not normally do [...]

From Our Blog

Book Reviews

  • Brazier on Other-Centred Therapy
    Wed, 13 Jan 2010
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    In stark contrast to the stereotypical Western therapist forever distracting the client from their stories about the world in order to ask "but how do you feel?", the Other Centred therapist listens carefully to the stories themselves. Indeed, this book presents examples of client work in which the therapist asks the opposite question about a partner whose behaviour the client is complaining about: "but what was that like for him?".
  • Caroline Brazier on Listening to the Other
    Mon, 07 Sep 2009
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    Brazier reminds us that counselling often goes beyond offering a non-judgemental space in which the client can listen to and experience themselves, to actively encourage a kind of self-preoccupation which can actually make one more isolated and miserable.
  • Zerbe on Integrated Treatment of Eating Disorders
    Mon, 29 Jun 2009
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    This book seems to contain all of human life, from the scientific details through the full range of emotions, including the extremes of love and hate. And it emanates a sense that although we all get shaken sometimes, and life is dangerous, every feeling is expressible and every situation is workable.

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