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By Dr Greg Mulhauser

Come on in and make yourself at home! Compare types of counselling and psychotherapy, take self-tests and quizzes, identify symptoms, look up medications, or learn about secure online therapy. You can also ask one of our psychologists a question, or read some of the more than one thousand questions left anonymously by other readers. Just choose a section from the tabs at the top of the page to get started.

Ask the Psychologist!

  • Is It Just Me, or Do I Have Grounds for Mistrust?
    Fri, 20 Nov 2009 Q: I’ve been with this girl for over 3 years. Two months ago, I proposed marriage to her. A couple of months before I proposed, I picked up on the fact that she always seemed preoccupied about something. She was also not as available to me as usual and was frequently late coming home. She [...]
  • How Can I Change My Abusive Boyfriend?
    Thu, 19 Nov 2009 Q: I am a 22-year-old female who has been dating my now 34-year-old boyfriend for 5 years. After the first year of our relationship his true character became evident to me. He is an alcoholic who, when drunk, becomes violent toward only me. I’ve spent the past 4 years of my relationship being physically and emotionally [...]
  • About to Marry a Man With Paranoid Delusions
    Thu, 19 Nov 2009 Q: I am currently engaged and am about to move overseas to join my fiancé in England. At first everything was fine and we were very happy. Lately, however, he has become extremely paranoid and believes that I am cheating on him. It is to the point that he even believes he can hear another [...]
  • Stepsister Just Another Member of the Family to Suffer Mental Illness
    Wed, 18 Nov 2009 Q: My stepsister just revealed to me that she believes that an old boyfriend from thirty years ago is communicating with her through songs on the radio and monitoring her through her cell phone. She also claims she saw him at a restaurant, but he denied that he knew her. My stepsister’s mother had severe schizophrenia [...]
  • Is My Ex-Boyfriend and Current Friend a Sociopath?
    Wed, 18 Nov 2009 Q: I have known my ex-boyfriend for 7 years. We still speak to each other now as friends. He’s mentioned before that he is a sociopath. But I was wondering whether a professional would see him that way. My friend never met his dad. He left his mum when she was pregnant at 16. When [...]
  • Necessary Discipline or Traumatic Experience?
    Wed, 18 Nov 2009 Q: When I was 6 years old, I threatened my mom with a kitchen knife. I didn’t have any real intentions to use it. I was tired and mad at her for some reason or another, and it just sort of happened. After she took the knife away from me, she told my father. My [...]
  • I am Afraid My Therapist Doesn’t Like Me
    Tue, 17 Nov 2009 Q: I have heard and read that if you think your therapist does not like you, you should find another one. Is this true? I was under the impression that it didn’t matter whether they liked you or not because a good therapist should be able to put your best interests first and do their [...]
  • Rebuilding Teenage Freedom Lost Due to Lack of Trust
    Tue, 17 Nov 2009 Q: I’m contacting you because I need some advice. I’m 14 years old, and I have problems with my mom 24/7. Instead of playing the blame game, let me tell you how things got started. Last year, I sneaked out of my house to go to a night club and got caught. This year, I got [...]
  • Lying and Manipulating: Is It Just Who She Is?
    Tue, 17 Nov 2009 Q: Is there a particular kind of mental condition or disorder that causes someone to lie, manipulate, and deceive others constantly to get their way? This person I know seems to be in denial whenever confronted about this and acts as if nothing is wrong. This person also has a difficult family life, but I’m [...]
  • HOCD and Unhappy: Will I Ever Be Normal?
    Tue, 17 Nov 2009 Q: I am a young male, and I have been diagnosed with HOCD. I have just a few questions: It has gotten extremely bad lately and to the point where I worry my brain might be convinced that I am actually attracted to males. Is that possible? Can an obsession get that bad? If so, what [...]
  • OK With Being Gay — But Not With My Shyness
    Mon, 16 Nov 2009 Q: I am 15 years old, and although I’ve known that I was gay for a really long time, I’ve been in denial until just this year. Growing up I was always closer to the girls and used to play with dolls and stuff. My cousins and friends used to make fun of me, and even [...]
  • Mom is Anxious in Social Situations
    Mon, 16 Nov 2009 Q: I am writing to get some advice about my Mom. She is a very big-hearted woman, but she has some really serious psychological issues and really needs help. My mom is absolutely terrified of being judged. She has very high anxiety and stress, and over the last 2 years she has “lost her voice” and [...]
  • Too Young or Just Too Unsure About Getting Tied Down?
    Fri, 13 Nov 2009 Q: I wonder if there is something wrong with me. I love my boyfriend, but I constantly worry that I may not always love him. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over three years. We are young (he is 21 and I am 19). I tend to be a chronic worrier and [...]
  • Real Learning Problems or Just Laziness?
    Thu, 12 Nov 2009 Q: Before I begin, let me thank you for your time and this service. Here is my problem: ever since I can remember I have been lazy to learn. What I mean is that I am selective about the things I might find interesting, and I learn those things well. But when it comes to studying [...]
  • Never Satisfied Boyfriend a Victim of Chemical Imbalance?
    Thu, 12 Nov 2009 Q: My boyfriend is a very well-rounded, healthy, smart, honest, caring, and giving man who struggles with always wanting more. There are times that he feels satisfied, but most of the time he wants more of just about everything. He has always felt the need to have two women. But he would really like to [...]
  • Mother-in-Law Lies and Hurts Others When She Doesn’t Get Her Way
    Wed, 11 Nov 2009 Q: I have been with my husband for over 7 years. My mother-in-law has always been extremely controlling and manipulative, and she is only getting worse as time goes on. She tries to control EVERYTHING in everyone’s life. I always knew that she was like that but never realized until recently that when you didn’t [...]
  • Depression and Memory Problems
    Wed, 11 Nov 2009 Q: I’m constantly feeling depressed. The worst part of what I’ve been going through is that my memory seriously doesn’t seem to be working at all anymore. I’m a student, and this has really become a big problem for me. My mind blanks out whenever I’m on a topic or trying to solve a problem, [...]

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Book Reviews

  • Caroline Brazier on Listening to the Other
    Mon, 07 Sep 2009
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    Brazier reminds us that counselling often goes beyond offering a non-judgemental space in which the client can listen to and experience themselves, to actively encourage a kind of self-preoccupation which can actually make one more isolated and miserable.
  • Zerbe on Integrated Treatment of Eating Disorders
    Mon, 29 Jun 2009
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    This book seems to contain all of human life, from the scientific details through the full range of emotions, including the extremes of love and hate. And it emanates a sense that although we all get shaken sometimes, and life is dangerous, every feeling is expressible and every situation is workable.
  • Counselling for Post-traumatic Stress Disorder
    Tue, 23 Jun 2009
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    This book is important reading, as it competently deals with the treatment of a major health issue which is both prevalent and chronic, with strong co-morbidity. While the tone didn't particularly engage me, I did finish the book with some insights and solid understanding.

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