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- Multi-Millionaire Father-in-Law Won’t Help in Time of NeedFri, 19 Mar 2010 Q: My husband is incarcerated because of drugs. His dad, my father-in-law, is a multi-millionaire. I love my husband and we have two children together, but his dad is always causing problems for us. He has alcohol and drug problems of his own. But he likes to hold money over my husband’s head because of [...]
- No Desire to Save My Marriage, So Should I Divorce My Husband?Thu, 18 Mar 2010 Q: My question is basically whether I should divorce my husband. We have been together for 6.5 years and have a daughter age 4. I’ve not been not happy with him for awhile. He’s a very nice person, though, and a great father. Sure, we’ve had little problems here and there but nothing big. And [...]
- Crazy for Wanting to Help and for Wanting to Get My Wife Back?Thu, 18 Mar 2010 Q: I am a recently divorced 35-year-old male with 2 children, ages 6 and 7. I moved next door to my ex’s family right after we broke up and she quit communicating with me. We were not yet divorced, and I compensated for the lack of contact with her by playing on the computer and [...]
- Seven Years of Treatment for Panic Attacks and Still No ResultsWed, 17 Mar 2010 Q: My partner suffers from panic attacks and anxiety. He has been seeing the same therapist now for the last 7 years, but it seems he hasn’t moved forward with his problems. Although I am sympathetic to his problems, I feel (as does he) that his therapy has stalled and the counselor he’s been seeing isn’t [...]
- After Other Losses, Loss of Grandmother’s Love too Much to BearWed, 17 Mar 2010 Q: Growing up, there were several issues that made things very difficult for us as a family. My grandfather had a series of strokes. I was very close to my grandmother, who was more like a mother to me. My grandfather’s bad health incurred many debts until he passed away 10 years ago, and things [...]
- How to Get Rid of Crazy, Intrusive ThoughtsWed, 17 Mar 2010 Q: I’m 20 years old, and for the past 8 months I’ve been having some really upsetting obsessive thoughts and it’s driving me crazy. I started having random thoughts that I might be gay even though I know that’s not true. Then I started to think maybe it wasn’t that I was gay but rather [...]
- At a Loss For WordsWed, 17 Mar 2010 Q: I have rarely been able to defend myself verbally. As I approach 64 years of age I find it even more difficult to find the words I need, even when the words are quite ordinary. It’s not that I have a poor memory (I score 99+ percentile in memory), nor poor vocabulary (I score [...]
- How Do I Escape This Manipulative Trap?Tue, 16 Mar 2010 Q: A lady executive befriended me shortly after reading about my husband’s obituary in the local newspaper. At first, she seemed very concerned and caring. She brought me many unsolicited gifts and spent time consoling me. After a while, she brought her mother-in-law with her for visits. She mentioned the mother-in-law was manipulative and sometimes [...]
- Confronting My Covert-Aggressive FatherTue, 16 Mar 2010 Q: I have only recently realized that my elderly father has a covert-aggressive personality. I spent so many years hating myself and feeling that others didn’t like me, including family members. It’s been a really hard realization to come to. I’ve always thought I had the “Leave it to Beaver” life, yet I was never [...]
- Trying to Repair Relationships with Five Lost FriendsTue, 16 Mar 2010 Q: I am a 19-year-old boy who lives in Toronto. A while back some things happened between my five close friends and me that pushed us apart. My friends thought me condescending and rude when these things happened, though I never meant to be insulting. After weeks of being pushed away by them and feeling [...]
- Online Relationships and Coping with Depression and LonelinessMon, 15 Mar 2010 Q: Hey, I hope you can help. OK I’ll be blunt, because I believe all details are necessary. I’m a depressed third-year college student (I live at home and commute). I’m 20 years old, single, and I have never even kissed a girl let alone anything else! My mom died when I was 3 years [...]
- Social Anxiety and Visiting Brothels Just to “Connect”Mon, 15 Mar 2010 Q: I’m a 25-year-old male originally from India but born and raised in Dubai. I’ve always been kind of an introvert. I had a conservative Muslim upbringing and went to an all boys school and generally was and am very quiet and keep to myself. I’ve never felt comfortable socially. About 4 years ago, a friend [...]
- Obsessions and Compulsions: Feeling Like I “Have” to Do ThingsMon, 15 Mar 2010 Q: I am a 15-year-old male. I’ve just been thinking about some things I do and decided to ask somebody who knows about such things whether I have a problem or not. Sometimes, I sort of scrape my index finger along the edge of something like a desk, and then I feel as if I must [...]
- Dad’s Passing Renewing Sibling RivalryFri, 12 Mar 2010 Q: It appears as if my sister is trying to steal my inheritance. There are just two of us children. I am the younger sister and live in New York City. Five years ago my parents, who were in their 80s, moved down to Florida. I had offered to take care of my parents here [...]
- Paranoia and Fear of Being Alone Rising to the Surface at NightThu, 11 Mar 2010 Q: For about two and a half years now I have been having some weird depression episodes. I haven’t found a disorder that has these specific symptoms, which is why I think it is weird. It doesn’t happen every day, and it usually only happens at night when I’m alone. The usual symptoms include: irrational [...]
- Married Young But Husband Still Acting Like a 16-Year-OldThu, 11 Mar 2010 Q: I’m a 21-year-old female and have been with my husband ever since I was 16 going on 17. Ever since we got married in 2007 we have been living with my mother-in-law. Last year we briefly rented an apartment, but we had to move out because we were laid off, so now we are [...]
- Can Sexual Abuse Lead to Poor Sexual Decision Making?Thu, 11 Mar 2010 Q: I am a 22-year-old Caucasian male, and my girlfriend is 19 and of Indian descent. Although we’ve been together five and a half years, she cheated on me last year with a close friend of her family, and I am torn. My girlfriend has been very unstable mentally the last two years because her past [...]
From Our Blog
- Am I a Self or an Organism?Thu, 18 Mar 2010We are organisms co-existing with our environment, making no sense without it, needing to be aware of what we are actually doing, rather than what we think we are doing -- let alone what we think about what we are thinking we are doing.
- Welcoming Our Two New Clinical PsychologistsTue, 16 Mar 2010On behalf of all of us at CounsellingResource.com, I'd like to extend the warmest welcome to our two newest contributors to the 'Ask the Psychologist' column, Dr Cynthia Giocomarra and Dr Alisa Robinson.
- Growing FBI Surveillance of Social Networking SitesTue, 16 Mar 2010Watch what you say: it's not just your friends listening, it's the Feds. Are you sure all your Facebook friends are who you think they are?
- The View From the ShouldersMon, 15 Mar 2010We climb down from the giants' shoulders to act differently because of the vision we have had.
Book Reviews
- Brazier on Other-Centred TherapyWed, 13 Jan 2010In stark contrast to the stereotypical Western therapist forever distracting the client from their stories about the world in order to ask "but how do you feel?", the Other Centred therapist listens carefully to the stories themselves. Indeed, this book presents examples of client work in which the therapist asks the opposite question about a partner whose behaviour the client is complaining about: "but what was that like for him?".
- Caroline Brazier on Listening to the OtherMon, 07 Sep 2009Brazier reminds us that counselling often goes beyond offering a non-judgemental space in which the client can listen to and experience themselves, to actively encourage a kind of self-preoccupation which can actually make one more isolated and miserable.
- Zerbe on Integrated Treatment of Eating DisordersMon, 29 Jun 2009This book seems to contain all of human life, from the scientific details through the full range of emotions, including the extremes of love and hate. And it emanates a sense that although we all get shaken sometimes, and life is dangerous, every feeling is expressible and every situation is workable.
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